Victims, Compassion, & Responsibility
Notes on The Emotional-Body, Denial of Pain, & "Easy Answers" (not)



Links to Essay Sections:

    PREAMBLE  
[New Feb'2012]
    Introduction
    Q & A Regarding "Creating Your Own Reality"
    Notes On Motivation (A Primary Purpose For The Emotional Body?)
    Re: Poorness, Guilt, Cruelty, and "...something to cry about"
    More on "the role of victim":  

    Note on the 'Abundance Set' of web pages at this site
  [added Aug 2011]
    Related References Section
    Author/Copyright/Disclosure Info
 


Preamble     (Feb 2012):

          My perspective with regard to victimization is a kind of cross-breed between that of a) Martin Luther King or Nelson Mandala, and b) that of "Hurricane" Rubin Carter (Wiki page, great radio story). Carter's was/is much more eclectic than King's or Mandala's (so far as I know), although, to most people (certainly most white people), all of these probably look very much alike, or may imply very similar lifestyles. I would like to say that students of "New Thought" (such as taught in Unity Church, Church of Religious Science) may elucidate the difference, and that some might even be able to discern the slight but effective difference between Hurricane Carter's relatively strict Buddhist perspective (albeit beautifully mystical in many respects), and my own (having read the following).
          My perspective (which is, actually, likely just more unknown than it is original) is an eclectic Buddhist/ New Thought/ Western Metaphysical/ mystical perspective, but one that also -and *notably* integrates a more gestalt psychology-based perspective (and practice) as regards the emotional body, which lends to certain modifications of the cosmology as related to the "victim" concept. The "Love-Letter" Self-Applied Journaling technique (see Related References section) illustrates this approach fairly well.

          Which concept, is what apparently keeps even some (not all 1) New Thought folks from readily grasping the subtleties. And that is due to an unconscious need, on the part of some of these students, to deny their emotional body (certain aspects of which are collectively referred to as the inner-child persona). More specifically, this regards certain concepts as regards "the victim" and *integration of previously denied emotions*, those that would seem to be more metaphysically sophisticated, and certainly calling for a much deeper nature of compassion than these students are as yet understanding (and at times "practicing" upon others). With these in mind, along with more general concepts, I've included the following:

          The points I want to make here is that, when considering the gestalt psychology modification to the otherwise relatively strict Buddhist perspective:

          a)     we resolve the means of how and when to communicate what kind of pain, as well as how to respond to such communication. This is due to taking into consideration: the amount of time the emotional body needs to process or integrate experience and "the Spirit" of it, including the ego's role in protecting the inner-child persona, including the managing of stored emotional material - from denial to *integration*, relative to the mental body's relative speed in understanding "the letter of the law". *Integration* is defined according to Gestalt (ie: "Hakomi") body-centered psychology, where victimization is treated at one time or stage or another, as "real" (to the victim and victimizer), "relative" (to roles being acted out), or "conceptual" (part of the individuation/maturation process from a spiritual perspective), depending on which stage of the integrative process one is transitioning through, as well as upon the belief system of the one transitioning through it.

          b)     we resolve the so-called "spiritual testing" process for what it is (ego-feeding interference by those pretending to be capable of teaching self-mastery when they are not): Because if a therapist were to make a client (let alone anyone else) wrong for *feeling* victimized, or for communicating the pain experience of that, then the therapist indeed would then be acting out the victimizing role, and totally inappropriately so. Because that would only serve to reactivate or increase the recipient's subjective experience of victimization. And even for therapists to treat one another with indifference to their own "stuff" (calling it a test or not) is considered less than compassionate, particularly if the one being "treated" has not claimed or otherwise made others aware of his/her having become a totally integrated, fully realized master.

                There might be an exception to this (referring to b), if there are specific agreements among those "testing" or challenging each other (ie: per certain schools of mysticism, albeit some of which I would not validate as "mystical", but oddly sadomasochistic), except that many practitioners of this "spiritual challenging" are only reinforcing the insensitivity of their still-denied "stuff" (which may include dis-associated aspects). Which action in effect, makes them much more likely to further act out such treatment of/at others, including those who are not even aware of the so-called purpose of the "treatment". Which may be obvious to some as conscious or unconscious "projection" (onto others) of "the teacher's" own denied material, who may top it all off with "you created your own experience". Hence, they are not increasing compassion and understanding in the world, and if anything, are increasing unnecessary confusion, unnecessary pain, unnecessary revenge, unnecessary ignorance, and more unnecessary victimization at the physical level.

                And, by the way, most therapists (certainly all that I've known), and I am speaking of those who are proficient at facilitating other's integration -- who thereby, in effect, do facilitate some amount or "level" of psycho-spiritual integration -- do not consider, let alone call, themselves "fully realised masters".  
    1    This refers to certain tendencies as briefly described here, and which are more pronounced in some, not all, eclectic/New Thought students who I've referred to as "New Age Fundamentalists", and briefly profiled psychologically in the section "INTERNAL SEPARATION AND HEALING", at the "Why Pain..." page (which page includes other VERY related sections as well); AND in context with other hi-structured (fundamentalist) belief systems at "Spiritual Battles & Wars" or "Systems of Structure & Effects on Learning".   Somewhat related: on (the law of) karma, reincarnation, and "On Learning, Fairness, Truth, and Peace" at the Evolution Trends Page, which also includes the "updated" prophecies for the year 2012.
'Karma-learning-Love Shield' - 'What is Sown is Reaped, What is stolen is paid for; Karma is Learning is Justice is Love; The Tree of Life Bears the Flower of Life Bears the Tree of Life...' Shared by Chris Pringer 2010
'Karma-learning-Love Shield' Shared by Chris Pringer 2010
 




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Victims, Compassion, & Responsibility
Notes on The Emotional-Body, Denial of Pain, & "Easy Answers" (not)    
[July 1996]


Introduction

          One of the most greatest paradoxes, I think, for the budding metaphysician has to do with the question of pain and suffering -- [begging the question:] is there a purpose for it such that it might even have been pre-designed into our evolutionary process - by a *benevolent* God or Higer Power, etc? It's bound to be one of the most difficult paradoxes to give a useful explanation for - especially to people of western religious systems. And just because I think I can try a shot at this (this is about victims, right?) doesn't mean that always helps me - as quickly as I'd like - when I get caught-up in my own stuff. Yes, it happens, so what am I doing writing this? Well, after you read this you may have an idea, or at least something useful to form and answer [perhaps one or two of?] your own questions.

          Hence, I have tried to develop a compassionate perspective that considers the person who is NOW feeling pain. I have to admit that I was first motivated to write on this subject after being given what I most strongly felt was not a compassionate response when I was in pain - and by someone who's advice I valued. I now value it for how it helped me formulate my own perspectives.

          I was given an opportunity to address the question in an internet mailing list [Summer of '96]. I employ this Q&A below to introduce the rest of my perspective (and it provides a much more compassionate approach than the one that originally motivated me):

 


Q & A Regarding Victimization & "Creating Your Own Reality":

          [from an Internet Mailing list:] "Some people believe that you create your own reality but that others do not create theirs-especially little babies who have all kinds of things happen to them or children who are abused. It is a difficult concept for many people to grasp that seemingly helpless children or starving people also create their own reality. When ever you buy into the victim mentality, you send people the idea that they are powerless and you make that probability one for yourselves. ...Those who are involved in dramas in which it looks like someone is a victim are usually so out of touch with their feelings that they do not connect how they feel with what they are thinking. Victims find victims. Victors find victors. So, please, ...if it looks as if people are hopeless victims, honor them and honor yourself by saluting that they created their own reality. ... Sometimes the greatest enlightment lies in the greatest catastrophies and the greatest difficulties. I welcome comments from anyone, especially you thoughtful and smart ones (Doesn't that include everyone?). -- L..

My Response/Perspective:

          At first glance, a "metaphysics 101" principle says, in effect, that we create all of our experience(s), therefore there are no victims. Watch out for the trap in this one. Without knowing that there is much more to this dynamic (of responsibility, claim, credit and blame, victor and victim), one can either deny the existence and/or needs of the inner-child (to have feelings considered and completed) or can deny the truths/reality of the principle itself.
          And to say that victors only find victors is generalizing to say the least. I agree that victims are not necessarily hopeless (certainly when considering other lifetimes), and that we should wait, if you will, before honoring the "process" of victims (who were/will be victors) as well as that of victors (who were/will be victims) - but only when considering the retrospection that also sees the end result (self-realization) with out being incompassionate about, let alone towards, the victim or the pain in the meantime. I'll slow that down, trying to give ideas as to how and why in the following paragraphs.

Why would the Higher Self have a victimizing event occur "to" its Material Self?

          The answers to that often asked question (in metaphysical circles) gets us into philosophy very quickly. From the standpoint of our living only one life, one could say that the soul chooses to make a sacrifice for the sake of other's increased understanding, compassion, generosity, etc. towards the "redemption" of all concerned. Personally, I believe God would have to be alot more cruel than I believe is likely for S/He to allow that to happen. Certainly not without alot more consideration as to the opportunities for other learning experiences by the soul who would make such as "sacrifice."

          From the perspective of reincarnation, there are more possible scenarios. One is that similar to the above "sacrifice" intention, but with more opportunity (with more lives) to balance out any inequities left over in that same life. Another and different scenario is that of a Karmic-debt "owed" by the victim, which just means that the soul's only way (due to stubborness of it's personality self, etc) to learn (compassion and) not to victimize others (as it's personality has done to others in a previous live(s)) is to experience the victimization himself. There are other possible explanations or factors which I'll bring into this later.

          According to one psychology perspective, victimization can also be a coping mechanism to avoid even more feared events/circumstances. To the degree that it becomes a habit, consciously wanted or not -- and it rarely is consciously wanted -- the personality develops coping mechanisms. (More on "the role of victim" later) Here is where the metaphysical explanation enters in. Coping Mechanisms become and/or beget other skills. These skills are not always used for the best purposes, and yet they can develop capabilities that can be kept after the habits and mechanisms are mechanically dropped. (Related reference: "Understanding the Pattern Triad and The Body Pattern Assessment/Reading" About Mind-Body Relationships, (from) coping mechanisms, (to) skills, (to) gifts through challenges on one's Life Path. [Rev'd & New Sections, 12/27/09])

          I am now referring to resources, perceptions, skills, and pathways that have been painstakingly and ever so creatively cut out through uncharted territories of the mind and soul and upon which can be further developed and used consciously and effectively to move, transport or communicate resources needed by others as well as self.

          But as is so often the case, "the gifts" here are earned by doing the role of victim - And surviving - then becoming the warrior of one's own forest. Only the soul could choose such a route - not the personality - but together they can choose to make it "worth it." But no one has a right to say that another should do this, - let alone be a premeditated co-creator in victimization - that is emotional Abuse in the form of spiritual counsel in the worst case. That's like telling someone with a hook in their gut that they should pull it out - while the standing and watching the gory event. I say he who pulls his guts out gets the credit. The exception to this - I gather from my studies, anyway - is when a true master attends that one, who with the master's assistance, chooses to play the warrior role. But the master is only serving to reflect the warrior's soul and empower the personality.

          Let's suppose that there is a universe where everything is done for purpose, and each purpose is part of a larger purpose, and this is part of a plan for (psycho-social/spiritual) evolution of souls. (dreamy, eh?) Now, why would people incarnate into that world, knowing from a soul level that they would be emotionally and/or sexually abused by their parents? Many body-workers and psychologists are very aware that there is a strong correlation between infant abuse, out-of-body experience, and a fear of being "in the body" that Manifests much more frequently, and/or in various situations, than would be considered optimal for psychological health. And yet, these are the individuals -- in many cases -- that have brought us so much of our current understanding of spiritual principles. And/or they are incredibly capable at transferring ("sublimating") the energy of their sexual desire, anger, and grief into creative processes in art, science, and diplomacy. This is all highly purposeful activity that the world values immensely. A related practical reference and tool might be "Questions for Boundaries -- Effective Communications of position, intention, & message, Maintaining Clarity for appropriate Connection, Direction, & Protection"

          Consider the following practical, although over-simplified, scenario: A soul who, not yet incarnated in a physical body, chooses to learn about compassion. He chooses parents who (not being conscious of their own souls' intent) co-create with the soul, now as child, traumatically painful experiences. He represses the memory of the events in order to live through childhood. This sets up certain associations or patterns and related belief pattern/complexes.
          Later, he attracts mates that co-create with him (now as adult) experiences that are sufficiently similar or otherwise evocative of the same feelings as experienced in childhood. This initiates the various phases of processing. He now begins to unravel his (the soul's) part in the creation of this learning experience, and in the process, learns about compassion for those who suffer. As stated, this is overly simplistic, but gets the point across, I trust.

          The inner-child represents the feeling or emotional body of our being. It is here that we may store emotions that are associated with traumatic events and/or long-term conditioning that would have us deny some part of our divine inheritance. That denial represents a victimization in that, while our mental/spiritual body may have designed such victimizing circumstances for learning a specific needed lesson (more on that later), our emotional body's inner-child has been and still is feeling the pain which is very real to it. And since the inner-child is a real aspect of ourselves as long as we exist on the earth plane, so is the pain also real - as a felt indicator of need for change. Therefore, so are the feelings of victimization. The concept of "motivation and the role of the emotional body" enters in strongly here.




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NOTES ON MOTIVATION (A PRIMARY PURPOSE FOR THE EMOTIONAL BODY?)

          Motivation - it's only purpose is to get the job done. It only needs to do that - pain is Not a necessity UNLESS that's the only way to get done just what has to be done. There are many ways to motivate. This implies that children, prisoners, nations, etc. do not need necessarily to experience pain in order to conform to appropriate standards. First try love, challenge, compassion, etc. and appeal to their higher nature. Then try mediation, compromise, or reward. Then try guilt or manipulation, etc. if absolutely necessary -- if nothing else works, in other words (when the objective is critical - otherwise the losses and karma would be greater for All concerned).
'The Law of Karma', just in case you didn't know, is all about the learning process, which process, according to many, is the reason for living in a physical body, taking up time and space, having experience, relationship with anyone or anything. As such, the concepts of *fairness*, revenge or retribution, debt, (etc), take on a meaning that is apparently foreign to most people on the planet. And yet I certainly like to think it can't be wrong to expect such things as basic respect from others. Indeed, I believe it is humanity's Karma to learn how to give it to everyone. Related aspects covered in the essay, Evolution Trends..." in the section "On Learning, Fairness, Truth, and Peace", and in essay, "WHY PAIN? Notes on Pain, Awareness & Denial," Pertains to Physical and other levels - Aspects in Developing a Practical Approach with Compassion.

          We need new motivators based on love and acceptance. The back and forth karmic cycle of abuser and abused is supposed to wake us up to need for new behavior and ways to transition us to it. It is not supposed to provide another justification for added insult and injury, more punishment and reward syndrome reinforcement, all of which maintains the attitudes that produce the abuse cycle in the 1st place. The cycle has to stop somewhere - revenge does not cure addiction! Revenge has become much of the motivation behind the systems we have created to provide justice - via reward and punishment. So what other ways can we develope to transition us from where are now to where we want to be? It will happen - and likely take a few hundred years, but it has to be approached like there is faith in this or it won't happen. It has begun, so what's the next step? What's the end product - what does that feel like, what would look like? God is not going to rob us of our learning process by "saving" us. S/he wants to be able to give US the credit, so we'll feel good about being with Him/Her. 1-17-94

          Hence, one can't beat, separate, or condemn someone (or some part of someone) into healing or even changing. Under those conditions more feelings of rebellion and resistance to change are created. At best we create a fear-motivated and pain-motivated person, society, or country that trains its offspring, its body, to be likewise motivated. All of which ends up cycling back to what you originally fought and denied and then acted as if there was no reason for. Acting as if there IS reason for a condition puts us in charge - gets us to the root of the need that the destructive behavior was created to fulfill. Then Healing can BEGIN. It seems to me that God didn't say - "Be a nice and willing victim for awhile and then I'll reward you," - but more likely something like, "Learn how to be all you can be -- YOU have to discover your options, make decisions, and take risks -- and I'll help you when you listen."

          More on the Emotional Body and Motivation at: "Emotion & Motivation on the Path and in Healing"

 


Re: Poorness, Guilt, Cruelty, and "...something to cry about"

          If one feels one has unnecessary advantage (Health, Wealth, Connections, etc) -- whether it is true or because one has been "trained" to believe it -- and feels guilty for it while others have so much lack and pain; Then one way to keep from feeling the pain (of others) is to make others (who are less advantaged) wrong for being so disadvantaged and miserable, and make self right for having advantage and no *apparent* pain. The fundamentalists justify this by saying "God is punishing them; rewarding me"; the (fundamentalist) "New Agers": "my good thoughts and/or Karma is returning to me and their wrong thoughts and bad Karma is returning to them;" favorites we love to hate: "you are just trying to manipulate me into giving you what you can't earn yourself, worse you are trying to make me feel (your pain, or worse, my own) and that is really going to piss me off and get you hurt, since all I feel is anger, and besides, that doesn't solve any problems, so just stop whinning and go get [a job, or a wife, a psychiatrist, a rifle, etc]."

          In any case, one would (unjustly) feel more justified therefore in not extending compassion through feeling others' pain and sending prayers and/or acknowledging their true worthiness to have good in their lives. OR worse, because they feel they need to defend their advantaged position -- less they lose it -- they accuse the disadvantaged and miserable of earning their misery. Their response is very similar to the bitter father's injunction -- "If you continue to cry, I'll give you something to cry about." It comes across as punishment for feeling pain, not to mention invalidation of feelings, and strongly encourages the miserable to deny their misery, lest they be made even more miserable. And that's a popular form of insulation among those who are advantaged by position and influence to be able to do something about other's pain, but refuse to even acknowledge it. Why ? They simply aren't strong enough to feel their own pain yet.

          From another angle: *If* one's previous attempts (in infancy/childhood or even later) to express the grief and sadness was answered with something like that ("don't hurt/cry"), and if what one perceives via one's feeling body is only allowed to be interpreted (by/to one's mind) only in terms of pity and manipulation (when not doing satiation/exilleration or some addictive behavior [eg: workaholism, sexaholism,] or substance), *THEN* it's likely that any invitation to feel other feelings/emotions can feel very threatening -- which state usually brings on the only other recourse -- anger (if not depression or an illness of some kind to avoid the anger)-- in order to avoid expressing the grief and sadness of actual loss that was never allowed to be safely dealt with. Obviously, in order to heal that pain, one would have to acknowledge it and feel it vs pretend it's not there / never happened. And in terms of getting this through to someone else, it probably won't happen to the degree that this someone is in a reactionary mode based on alot of old pain around being manipulated (eg: being "made to feel"). A related essay: "WHY PAIN? Notes on Pain, Awareness & Denial" (Physical and other levels) -- Aspects in Developing a Practical Approach with Compassion)
 


More on "the role of victim":

          One IS a victim so long as one associates consciously or unconsciously with the pain of victimization -- which includes any form of making one feel one is less than one is. One will do just that, and play the victim role to one degree or another until the pain and the experience that created it is dealt with. What one denies, one empowers. [Feelings themselves are neither right nor wrong, it's what we do with them...] As the idea of responsibility [for the feelings] takes hold, the feelings of victimization begin to be addressed via belief pattern work and emotional clearing, forgiveness, etc. While experience for learning may include taking on such a role, I emphatically believe there is no appropriate justification or beneficial reason to CONSCIOUSLY create or condone a victimizing experience for oneself or others [except as noted above with regard to Karma, and that being strictly from the Soul level -- and do NOT believe someone if they victimized someone and said they did it from that level].

          "Revictimization" (the re-experience of guilt/helplessness for past events), occurs when a victim is convinced that s/he is TO BLAME for her/his painful experiences, thereby re-experiencing the judgment that created the blocked memory and emotions in the first place. So, primary to the whole clearing process is dealing with the judgment and its origins. Once the "victim" builds enough self-esteem, they become strong enough to deal with the issue of responsibility for their creations. Then they will do the necessary therapy on the issue(s) at hand and will ventually come to drop the victim associations and role. This role has once childhood protected him/her from the intense shame associated with the event. In this case, it may feel better to feel like a victim -where others are perceived as responsible - than to be/FEEL personally at fault for the wrong-doing (in shame). The shame feeling is only a result of buying into the judgment (as perceived, consciously or unconsciously, coming from those who know) that begat the shame in the first place.

          Forgiveness can occur when the needs for feeling valid are felt to be fulfilled, even though, in many instances the associated material or tangible losses are known to be irrecoverable (for whatever reason). The above "transition" process is usually a difficult one, however, depending on how long and strongly one has depended unconsciously on the victim role (to get the "payoff"). If this last concept of "the payoff" seems apathetic or cruel to you, you will find solace and illumination in the published works of such authors as John Bradley and Staphanie Covington and in related programs: ACA (Adult Children Anonymous), and CODA (Co-Dependents Anonymous).

          According to one perspective, ideal health of the emotional-body can be defined (if not actually attained except by "masters," through perhaps many persistant lifetimes) as, "A state of corporeal embodiment of Being wherein the emotional body is fluid -- totally so, such that no attachments to emotions or emotional states, or to the lack of same, exist, and such that there are no judgments that restrict the flow or awareness to same; the present is experienced/felt as present (totally new) experience; feeling states and associated images of the past do not block or functionally impair perception of any relevant current data; sufficient detachment from emotions to eliminate emotional reaction while increasing feeling-response-ability and choice, and simultaneous disidentification with any emotional aspect and still retaining capacity for total empathy as consciously directed." [Such a master would also have lived through lifetimes of experiences of storing and denying emotions due to trauma, as well as re-integrating them, and so would practice compassion for all people in whatever stages of such processes, and would attain other's invitation or permission before "testing" them or otherwise teaching them towards assisting their psycho-spiritual integrative processes.]

          A note of loving caution: as long as we make ourselves wrong for being less "realized" than what we are, our ego will grasp to identify with "higher" states. This can serve to motivate but also creates blindness to the "Present Moment" wherein self-realization occurs. It does this by using the mind to fool ourselves into believing our dreams are here-and-now realities, while it denies that it still holds on to old patterns. The liberating implication therefore, is that there is no healthy reason to judge oneself, let alone punish oneself, for being where one is in the process.

© Chris Pringer, 7-30-96 [Some notes in brackets added Feb'12; reformatted Nov'11, Feb'12]

 


Note on the 'Abundance Set' of web pages at this site:

        If some folks were to see how I live and hear of my having written an essay on abundance, they would be sure that I was either a comedian, a hypocrite, or a blathering idiot. My response to that would be, "well, that's understandable laughing, given the usual definitions..." for abundance or success - primarily based on how one "understands" karma, belief patterns, and life decisions about what might be called ones priorities.

        In any case, I am happy to say that I am rich in many ways that are not associated with how the image of 'success' has been promoted in the media. And essentially that: further understanding of the definitions, values, and concepts regarding such terms as 'magnetism,' 'achievement,' 'attainment,' and 'true abundance' would be a valuable thing in this 'all about winning' era, and I hope to provide at least some clarification in the essay, "Attainment And Achievement -- The Alignment Of Beliefs, Desires, And Needs", the essay, "Whole Being Integration In Manifesting Abundance...", and the essay, "Achievement of Goals, Attainment, And the Role of Inner Work: A Flow Chart of the Human Psyche in Growth Facilitation and ...", referred to as "The Goal Chart", and which includes "Heart's Desire, Ideals, & Accomplishment" (Aug'11).

        The term 'karma' may also deserve some attention, and that is covered more extensively in the essay, Evolution Trends..." in the section "On Learning, Fairness, Truth, and Peace", and in essay, "Victims, Compassion, & Responsibility -- Notes on The Emotional-Body, Denial of Pain, & 'Easy Answers' (Not!)", as well as in essay, "WHY PAIN? Notes on Pain, Awareness & Denial," Pertains to Physical and other levels - Aspects in Developing a Practical Approach with Compassion. You'll find many other references to essays at this site here, and here's where I toss in my 2nd disclaimer below (and some humor).

  




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Reference Section


    "The Empathy Movement" - an assembly of resources and considerations, is currently at the "Chalice Integration Arts & Sciences" page. Also related on that page is 'The Lords of Culture' and Listening- a story about Language, Relationship and Communications, "the body-mind split", emotional intelligence (EQ) as related to IQ, implications and ramifications (cause and effect dynamics) in society, politics, foreign relations, suggestions/ considerations for pro-active response on individual and social levels, etc. And "A Kind of Summary For Pragmatic Balance" - eclectically presented summary of links to (more) essays with considerations for pragmatic approach.

    "My Cells - My Children" & other metaphorical prose
This refers to the metaphor of cells as children, the body as a family, and various aspects of our emotional body as inner-children. Prosaically illustrates the dynamic relationships of Spirit, mind, body, and emotions, as well as the inner-child-parent-family, including the cells, organs, and body systems. And the "Body-Parenting" approach and a powerful form of psycho-therapeutic preventative health maintenance. A non-prosaic discourse for which has been included, Dec'09. The "Re-Parenting" approach to personal growth & self-healing can be a powerful tool in the body-mind integration process. The page also includes a little artwork in surreal symbolism, "The Chaliverse."
    "A Gestalt Perspective," and "Seven Phases of Personal Growth" (2 Essays)
A perspective on an approach to and regard for life, one's past and present, as well as a basis for personal growth and/or therapy. I could've called it an integrated 'Gestaltist-Humanist-Buddhist-New Thought' perspective. (You could say these are my main sources, from among the various "schools" of psychology and correlating approaches to application of therapy.)

    "WHY PAIN? Notes on Pain, Awareness & Denial"
Pertains to Physical and other levels - Aspects in Developing a Practical Approach with Compassion. I begin with basic, more physical-level concepts, and extend into other dimensions from there. There may be more proper medical terms for most of the dynamics I describe, but my purpose is to try to explain a complex but common experience in an understandable fashion. includes short essays, "Intro & Notes on Pain, Pain Reduction, Pain Elimination, Pain Desensitization", "A List Of Factors In The Perception Of Pain", "More On Referral Of Pain", "Delayed Healing", "Why Deep Massage/Bodywork?", "Should A Massage Be Painful?" (therapy may locate, or bring awareness to, what is already there, but should not add to it), "Touch-Sensivity of Muscles...", "Stress & Energy Related Pains", "Notes On Pain From Gestalt Perspective", "Internal Separation And Healing", & [added Aug 2011:] Heart's Desire, Ideals, & Accomplishment - and Healing the Pain.

   "Emotion & Motivation on the Path and in Healing"
A Cosmology of what is here referred to as the 'Emotional-Body' - that which provides the motivation or 'drive' for any sustained focus, decision, stance or action. It is the degree of emotion that makes the difference between a held belief and a mere passing thought. Includes "Emotion, Fuel, & 'the Vehicle' - Fueling or Fooling Around?", "Reward, Punishment, Justice, & Change", "Emotion & Intention; Motivation & Detachment; Self & Others", and "Asking for Forgiveness, & What's Trust Got to Do With It?"

"Love's Chalice from the Tree of Life or "Chalice Of Druids Tree", Chris Pringer, Aug'12 - Named with the *Druid* reference due to the rather hard look, but in any case, the heart chakra is considered green by most esoteric scholars, yet the rose & violet pastels seem to light up the hearts of people. But when combining the colors of the crown (violet), the active base (red), the color said to be an integration of all colors (white). Extending forth from the deep blues of throat's power and the bright light blue greens of, lets call it "organized love", with its "Atomic Pi-Chalice spheres" and extending rays of golden yellow of enlightened intellect (the white, violet, and green of crown and heart tinting the yellow of the solar plexus).(At full resolution at Fine Art America where my art is available in framed, canvas, or acrylic prints, greeting cards, etc.
    "Love Letter" self-applied journaling technique (Word doc format)
"Nice name, serious work": This letter format is useful for preparing and/or facilitating deeper communications and/or resolving conflict/issues within self or with another person (ie: parent, former mate, etc). This method can fill a special need for therapeutic dialog with someone who is currently not present, including those who have passed on. Because most of what any person can actually heal, or may be responsible to heal, is within ones own feeling body. It is also valuable for/during various strictly personal therapeutic processes, for simply journaling, including self-dialog between two or more parts of yourself that represent mixed feelings about something. Other benefits include introduction to and practice in additional valuable self-healing techniques: "Self-Parenting;" constructing practical, emotionally integrative affirmations; making decisions about your intention and direction for healing change; and verbalizing those decisions in order to etch them into ones being. The latter initiates the completion of (as yet unmet) essential need(s) of the inner-child, and may manifest changes in related physical symptoms (ie: less pain). Titled, "How To Write A Love Letter", this is Available in Word doc format or (Unformatted) Text format. [You may also be able to right click on either of those links, select "save link as" (or equivalent), and save the file(s) to your hard drive for later use.]
    "Achievement of Goals, Attainment, And the Role of Inner Work: A Flow Chart of the Human Psyche in Growth Facilitation and ..."
Often referred to at this site as "The Goal Chart" - a practical visual tool to help organize a truly gestalt approach to goal accomplishment, as well as complement & help complete other self-help perspectives & presentations. This comprises a re-hash of gestalt application of modern psychology and ancient truths, created to work for new applications; © Chris Pringer, '92, Rev'd 8'02. In another section, "Heart's Desire, Ideals, & Accomplishment" (Aug'11) is about clarifying what we most truly want, and how we can have that... also about HOW we respond to Pain & Loss (whether caused by disease, ourselves, others, or the economy) and are brought back together again - the *how* that can MAKE ALL THE DIFFERENCE.

    "Attainment And Achievement -- The Alignment Of Beliefs, Desires, And Needs"
Basic principles and definitions for functionally clarifying the differences between ones beliefs, desires, & needs - and the implications for realistic goal setting, or "manefesting abundance" as related to personal growth, preventative health maintenance, and self-healing.

    "Notes on Beliefs, Healing, and Prayer"
Or "Bridging Prayer & Science" - faith & intuition, Spirit working logic & emotion, and a little science to boot. Tools for working with the cells - self-healing on an energetic level, plus supportive science, concepts and references, a summary essay, "Cells & Healing Changes: How I Believe What I See; Building, Cleansing, and Paradigm Management; Body-Parenting & Healing Cell-Talk" [Rev'd Apr 2011] and "'Getting Super': Sample Personalized Visualization Prayer Chart" (more application of science than prayer in this case, as related to *Cellular Re-Organization* and engaging *neuroplasticity*.) [Apr 2011]. Also "Focusing Love-Organized Healing Waters", or Water-Charging (incl. a section for the Neuro-Endocrine System), based on some very inspiring scientific findings by Masaru Emoto, including Dr. Emoto's message for transforming the water (molecules) effected by nuclear radiation. (2013)

   "The Use Of Questions (and Gestalt approach) In Effective Affirmation Therapy"
Theory & Examples for Practical Application. Theory section explains how this "Positive Response Question" (PRQ) system compares to other affirmation techniques and therapies - how and why they work, advantages of PRQ's, etc. Includes Lots of Sample PRQ's (Positive Response Questions) for learning and affirming any desired knowledge, Simple How-To's in developing Pragmatic use of "the right question" -- from a test situation and/or from regular affirmations. Works well for the intangibles (Personal Growth oriented) which many would say has to come before you can truly enjoy the rest anyway. © `94

   "Seven Laws of Change" and "Principles for Invocation of 'The Blueprint'" --
Two pieces about 1) How Change Happens - 'Within & Without' about some key attitude-related principles of force, movement, and the balancing of energies (one basis of healing); 2) Empathic Healing & Invocation - A Summary of a 3-part essay, Originally published © July'97 (at Seeker Magazine Website).

   "Whole Being Integration In Manifesting Abundance and Seven Steps To Initiation And Understanding": Principles of magnetism in the process of conscious personal growth, spiritual integration, and self healing.   Includes special section:
   "Questions for Empowerment": Positive Response Questions (PRQ's) designed specifically for Personal Empowerment through re-defining one's values and beliefs.
Goal Chart' © Chris Pringer, ChaliceBridge.Com

Loving Organized Healing Water Flow Visual Affirmation Chart' © Chris Pringer, ChaliceBridge.Com
Love-Organized Water Flow Visual Affirmation Chart for the Whole Being Healing & Preventative Maintenance, at "Notes on Prayer" page. Also at "Blessing Nutrition" sections at the Body-Mind Nutrition page. About how prayer & invocation work, "... facilitating processes at atomic/molecular levels by re-aligning their structural & therefore magnetic/ionic arrangement ...Repeated 're-training' of our cells..." Chris Pringer 2013

'Questions for Empowerment' over chalice tapestry (sacred geometry-based) background by Chris Pringer
"Questions for Empowerment" over chalice tapestry (sacred geometry-based) background
    "Compassion, Healing, and The Practitioner - and Detouring 'Burn-out'" - Published July'88 in "The New Times" (Seattle). On title-noted-aspects and related co-dependency and psycho-spiritual dynamics more or less common to therapists, nurses, doctors, and other care-givers. Also differentiates compassion from sympathy, permanent healing facilitation from symptomatic or temporary, responsibilities as related to "the work". An older writing, a compilation of principles and ideals. Also includes prose, "The Price Of Compassion". Added Feb'13: Visual "Affirmation for 'Seeing' & 'Hearing' ", for Clarifying and Clearing over Chalice Garden Multi-Chalice(8) HemiSync[12-3B]... This (page-wide) visual affirmation is based on principles of various therapeutic systems, including Chi Gung, for bringing about greater balance of energies in your system...". Included suggestions for use, with a 2nd graphic, "Chalice Bridging" & "Synthesis" prose over "PiChal-on Sepia". Added Jul'13: "Asking for Forgiveness, & What's Trust Got to Do With It?"

    The "Body-Mind Integration" (Essays) Page
The How's And Why's Of Psycho-Emotional Storage of the Body-Mind (in layman's physiology & psychology): When, how and why tension is stored and released; communication between body and mind, benefits; proprioreceptors, personal growth, massage/bodywork, therapist's approach, etc. Originally published by the author in Massage Magazine, July-Aug 1992. Newly Added/Rev'd (May'11-July'12) on this page: "The science behind the body-mind relationships" (in the reference section) as well as addendum essays for clarifying these topics for *common sense* preventative maintenance application, as well as further completing the context and clarifying the dynamics and processes involved, including "Muscle Q & A" (a kind of overview of the mind-body aspect), "Body Awareness and Communications, as Related to Body-Memory and Integration", "Insight Please", "Cell Talk" - Suggestions on building a healing relationship with ones cells (muscles or otherwise), "Adrenaline vs Endorphins...Brain Activity, Muscles and Tendons ...Aging" about adrenal response related to all the above (incl. trauma, long-term conditioning), "EQ, IQ, Emotional Integration, and a Synergetic Relationship", and Reviews for articles on Massage, Alternative Therapies, & Pain, incl. "Study: Massages really can make pain go away"; & Sept 2011 Consumer Report; quotes, commentary & charts. [Note: Keywords referring to, or related to, the phenomenon of body memory: somatic memory, tissue memory, muscle memory, somatic experience, somatic healing, somatic therapy, body-mind split, mind-body split]

    The "Core Body-Mind Integration Concepts in Context Chart" is now (10/10/11) at the Organization Chart page. It compacts the key points into a relatively small visual space, and provides a summary of them and their implications relative to body-mind preventative maintenance, pain management, other aspects.

"INTEGRATION"
"Integration" in the wholistic or therapeutic sense, implies that the information or skills (whether of the past, the good, the bad, remembered or forgotten) are re-organized and then learned from, in such a healthfully complete or "Integral" way (*Love-Wisdom* in application), that it is understood and used for the highest good. The process involves "Synergy" of many systems, and the word "Transformative" is often used to describe what often happens with the most destructive material - that which has been repressed or denied. (Pertains to my more in-depth work, if/as requested.)

    "Integration" by Krysta Gibson
about Common myths vs realities about psycho-spiritual integration; effective guidance about feelings and memories, 'living in the now', 'releasing' events and people, 'forgiving and forgetting' the past - for living the spiritual life fully and meaningfully. Originally published by Krista Gibson in "The New Times" of Seattle. Through the late 80's & most of the 90's, I always read Krysta's essays if I didn't have time to read anything else, and kept copies of various or her articles handy for my clients to take home with them. Still current...

    "Understanding the Pattern Triad and The Body Pattern Assessment"
(Rev'd & New Sections, 12/27/09) Mind-Body Relationships and *coping mechanisms, *challenges, and *gifts on one's Life Path. This page is about how the body has habitually responded to experience is evidenced by the body's holding and movement patterns. Includes "Notes on Mind-Body Correlations - Source-References, Organization of *Body Memory,* and 'WHAT I DO' " (New 12/27/09). Other sections include excerpts from "Body Memory and ... Learning Life Lessons." About aspects to be discovered, emotionally cleared, and then employed as mental/emotional assets and guidance towards determining and accomplishing life goals. Note: Keywords referring to, or related to, the same phenomenon: fascia memory, somatic memory, tissue memory, muscle memory, somatic experience, somatic healing, somatic therapy.


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  "ART & SCIENCE of Body, Mind, & Spirit Integration"
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        Presenting early to more recent artwork on the "Chalice" or Grail theme (by yours truly), both hand-made & artistically rendered computer-generated works, & a little bio on how it began & developed. This art is born out of the 3D geometric vision/ visual "seen" in 1985, which experience was complete with correlations to deep (pre-Christian) symbology - which initiated the research into the correlations to the legendary meanings of the Holy Grail (and sources, and how and why that was later edited by "the Church"), as well as into various body-mind-spirit correlations, & healing alchemy & energy dynamics. All this related both the body & the grail elements to the mind's interface, in a way that makes sense of many otherwise-would-be paradoxes & mysteries, bridging arts & sciences, with implications related to whole health, including one's relationship with his/her cells. And when incorporating "sacred geometry" into the the rendered symbols (per pi-ratio) -also relevant to the DNA of all Life (proportion as essential to function), most interesting artforms seem to naturally appear.
      Essentially (Per mystical symbolism which precedes anything any religion has, or may yet, to do with it), the chalice is about the human embodiment of Spirit (or Who or whatever It is that created & connects all Life) into the three "lower bodies" (mental, emotional, & physical) which compose the "Body-Mind". Which is also a "vehicle" for the balancing & integrating of Humanity - individually & communally. Chalice "Productions" may thus refer to each person AS a chalice in development. There are essays on various geometry, proportion, function, symbolism, history, & possible implications, including " 'The Lords of Culture' & Listening - A story about Language, Relationship, & the Body-Mind Split - An Anthropology of Intelligence & Paradigms in Context" (7'10) accompanied by, "Therapies & Levels of 'The Spectrum of Consciousness' " a seminal chart by Ken Wilber; "Paradigm Shifts" (7'10); The "Pragmatic Balancing" section of this page relates the Holy Grail to the (psycho-social) evolution of Man, to the world's key religions as well as the Gnostics (by nature of that which unites all of them, although is not necessarily about them), & to *The Da Vinche Code*; includes a working summary of & psycho-social objectives & approaches for bringing about that evolution (as addressed at various pages at the site). Hence, my artwork overall is an eclectic/symbolic mix of multiple layers of brights and subtles, thematic components that blend in sacred geometry rounded with a balance of textures and grounding touch.


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   "Resource Access Prayer Chart for Economy

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24 prayers as of Dec 2011, Universal in approach,generally invoking Divine assistance, calling for citizen awareness & courage, truth, justice, accountability, related healing, learning, & balance, etc. They include a resource-connecting prayer chart for the Economy (Jan'11) , two that are specific to global climate healing, one to Iraq & Middle East, two for comprehensive planetary healing in general, two specific to media communications (latest Dec'10), and more. Page includes background and related information, links, and printing/downloading tips. (Yes, of course it's free, as I believe prayers are meant to be.)


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   "Q's Prayer 4 World Peace
     
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    "Archangel Prayer for Iraq-MiddleEast"
     
Global Climate Healing Fantasy & Invocation (Thumb)

   "A Global Climate Healing Fantasy and the Spirit of It All" On Sacred Earth Background. PDF versions available for Printing (is 2 pages long)
   
World Healing Prayers over Sacred Geometry Graphic Backgrounds

The "coverage" (via prayer text) provides a virtual summary of our current world challenges - hints to opportunities to gain the momentum we need to heal/transform the planet and mankind.
   
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     Broad Spectrum World Healing Prayer

 




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