by Krysta Gibson, March 1988

      [ This article was originally published by Krista Gibson in "The New Times" of Seattle - untitled in her usual "Editorial Comment" section. Still current in the guidance it offers, it has been re-titled, re-formatted slightly, and re-published at the ChaliceBridge site with Krysta's permission. Through the late 80's & most of the 90's, I always read Krysta's essays if I didn't have time to read anything else, and kept copies of various or her articles handy for my clients to take home with them. Another of Krista's articles of guidance published here is "Moving Through Changes". Krista now publishes the New Spirit Journal. I also want to add with appreciation that Krysta's writing has provided guidance to me, as well as influenced my perspectives and my writing early on. - Chris Pringer ]


          A friend of mine was berating herself recently because no matter how hard she tried or how many times she "released the past" she found herself still being pulled into feelings and memories she thought had been left behind. I think all of us have responded deeply to the injunction of living in the "now," "forgiving and forgetting" the past if we want to live the spiritual life fully and meaningfully. I also think that very few people have, in fact, released the past even though we may think we have done so successfully.

          It is most difficult, actually impossible, to release a bird from one's hand if one is not holding a bird. It is also impossible to release a past one does not have in one's possession. In order to release events and people from our past, we must first "have" them to release.

          Although I have been using the term "release," I don't believe that we let go of the past; I believe we integrate it and use it as a precious pan of who we are. I think a lot of us respond to the concept of letting go of the past because we don't want to deal with it and if we can find a way to get rid of it without having to deal with it, we'll try any technique to do so. But, we can let go as many times as we want and, unless we have integrated our past experiences, they will remain even if they are effectively hidden from us.

          I believe that the past, present and future co-exist as who we are. Who I am right now is the result of everything which has gone before this moment. This moment contains everything within my experience which forms my future. I couldn't get rid of my past if I wanted to — it is part of who I am as a person, is a Soul. What I can do. though, is befriend my past, understand her, love her and integrate her. When I can do this, the past is no longer a haunting obsession which owns me and sabotages or warps my present or my future. Instead, it becomes a very rich and resourceful part of my life from which I draw wisdom, comfort, guidance and a feeling of deep spiritual connectedness.

          In my humble opinion, 99 percent of the people on this planet were born into dysfunctional families. I like to leave one percent as an optimistic figure that someone, somewhere was born and raised in a "functional" home. If we arc willing to face it, we have to admit that this is a dysfunctional planet so why should we be surprised that the family units are not the perfect Leave It To Beaver ideal we like to think they are. What is also true is that the degree of dysfunction varies within families as much as it does within individuals, so not everyone grew up or is growing up in a severely dysfunctional home. Very few of us can say we were born into a home where we were truly wanted as the special and unique entities we were rather than to fulfill someone else's needs and expectations, where our parents were functioning as nature, self-actualized adults who could give us the unconditional love and guidance we craved, where absolutely no "mistakes" were made, where we had the optimal conditions to grow into whole, healthy human beings. I say this with confidence because if a lot of people did have this experience, we would not see the massive materialism, greed, powerlessness, violence and addictions that we do see ail around us and inside us.

          If I am right, this also means that all of us have pasts within this lifetime that have the potential of making our present and our future somewhat grim. It is at this point that some people take strong issue with these concepts thinking that what is being said is that our parents are bad people who did a bad job of raising us. This causes a feeling of defensiveness, especially if one is a parent oneself. I don't see it that way. From the spiritual perspective, I see what is happening on planet earth as part of the evolution of the human species. Lots of parts of our current evolution aren't pretty to look at or deal with. Denying them for that reason is not helpful. I see society's recognition of its own dysfunction as very positive and as the next step in our growth. A situation unrecognized can not be changed. One seen for what it is, accepted and dealt with can be changed, I believe those consciously pursuing their spiritual unfoldment are charged with being an active part of this process.

          The most common response within some New Age circles to these ideas is to bring love, light, and forgiveness to our past and then release it, knowing everyone concerned was doing their best and certainly no intentional harm was aimed at us. If we have been hurt by the past, it was not intentional and therefore merely needs the salve of forgiveness and release. After all, it's in the past anyway. So. out comes the sage and cedar, the crystals and candles, and releasing after releasing is done in good faith, with serious intent to get on with one's "now." And, after a day or so (at best) of feeling lighter and more centered, we find, again, things in our lives just aren't working like we wish they would and there is a gnawing feeling of unrest, of despondency, that we can't get a handle on. Maybe we just need to learn now to control our thoughts better and not be so negative? Maybe we are associating with the wrong people, energy suckers, who arc holding us back? Maybe we're under psychic attack? Maybe Mercury is retrograde again? Maybe we're experiencing the dark night of the soul? Maybe we're being "tested" by higher forces? Maybe. But maybe we have unintegrated parts of ourselves which are still trying to get our attention and instead of releasing them we need to embrace them.

          As far as the idea of intentional versus unintentional harm goes, if someone accidentally runs into a car without the intention of harming it, does that mean the car isn't damaged? Simply because parents', teachers', and society's structure in general may not be intentionally aimed at causing low self-esteem, co-dependency. self-hatred or a myriad of other personality disorders, [it] doesn't mean these things do not exist within us and need our attention rather than our denial.

          When we are infants the entire universe revolves around us, we do not have the ability to differentiate "me" and "them." We experience everything as if it were a part of ourselves. Although I do believe we bring experience with us when we are born. I also believe that, at the human level, we cannot access it or understand it when we are children unless we were fortunate enough to be birthed into a home where such memories were encouraged; such homes were and are very rare. And, even in those homes, it would be a very unlikely child who would be able to make mature, conscious decisions about what was happening in her or his life. So, effectively, we are physiological, mental, psychic, and emotional tape recorders taking in everything around us as if it were us. By the time we begin school we are, in effect, programmed and continue to act on the program while having it expanded and reinforced unless something or someone intervenes. We are also not conscious that this is happening.

          Depending on the severity of the dysfunctionality we grow up in, anywhere from a little bit to a whole lot of what happens is merely absorbed into us without the benefit of sorting, analyzing, or understanding. In some instances, it is possible to not even have memories of it or to alter the memories to more pleasant and acceptable ones we can live with. If our pasts are of such a nature that they are interfering with current day functioning and if we were not fully present when the past was taking place, do we have the past in our possession to release? I don't think so. It is so intertwined into our persona that, unless we look for it, we can't even know that it is there and operating. We can release all we want and it is still there because we don't have it to release. And I am not just talking about childhood issues either. I'm talking about that relationship last year. If, while in that relationship we were acting on prior programs we didn't know were there, then we also were not present and don't have anything in our possession to release.

          What on earth does all this have to do with leading the spiritual life, with experiencing God/ess realization, with evolving into what some call "Fourth dimensional consciousness?" Everything. At my current level of understanding and ability to articulate that understanding, in order to be living in the place of alignment with our Higher Selves, our Soul identity, in order to be able to love from a place of inner peace, in order to love unconditionally, in order to evolve to our fullest potential, we must be able to live as integrated and "current" beings. The actual process of the integration and then the living of it in our daily lives is our spiritual path. We can't zoom to the stars when we're walking hip deep in mud. We can't give from the deepest parts of ourselves when we don't know where they are and have not experienced them. We can't love one another when we haven't experienced true self-love and acceptance. And we can't love ourselves if we don't even know who we are.

          I share with many others a vision of the "New Age" when humanity evolves to a state of continual love and peace on this planet with respect and nurturance for all forms of consciousness found here. I also share with many others the belief that this cannot happen when the humans living here are fragmented entities walking around without a clue as to who they are or why they are here.

          I think the most important single action any of us can take to bring forth our dreams of the New Age is to let go of the glitter and the empty promises and work on our own lives to become integrated people living in a now we are familiar with, deeply intimate with — ourselves. There, I believe, lies our future, the fulfillment of the dream of experienced oneness with the Divine Presence within, and the quickening of our experienced oneness with the Divine Presence around us. And we can keep using our sage and cedar, our crystals and candles, but, instead of using them to erase parts of ourselves which aren't erasable, we use them to welcome all of who we are and to celebrate the uniqueness of our own experience — past, present and future.

Krysta Gibson, March 89

Flowing River Consulting (krystagibson.com) is Krysta Gibson's website. She is the publisher and co-editor of New Spirit Journal (newspiritjournal.com). Krysta has been on her spiritual path her entire life and brings an eclectic blend of experiences and ideas to her consulting work.

During the 11 years she published The New Times, Krysta met and interviewed some of the great spiritual minds of our times, including Dr. Wayne Dyer, Deepak Chopra, Marianne Williamson, Shakti Gawain, Julie Cameron, John and Jan Price, and a multitude of others. She studied many different traditions and was exposed to a very wide variety of ideas.

Krysta eventually sold The New Times and made her way into the world of eldercare where she managed a retirement and dementia care community and eventually became executive director of a non-profit senior center. In May of 2005, at the urging of many friends and former New Times readers, Krysta started a similar newspaper, New Spirit Journal.

Additional Links:
Hear Krysta on The Animal World Radio Show       See Krysta on Being In Seattle [video]
Read about Krysta in The Monroe Monitor newspaper
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        More Essays on Integration at This site        

"Integration" in the wholistic or therapeutic sense, implies that the information or skills (whether of the past, the good, the bad, remembered or forgotten) are re-organized and then learned from, in such a healthfully complete or "Integral" way (*Love-Wisdom* in application), that it is understood and used for the highest good. The process involves "Synergy" of many systems, and the word "Transformative" is often used to describe what often happens with the most destructive material - that which has been repressed or denied. (Pertains to my more in-depth work, if/as requested.)

ChBullet    The "Body-Mind Integration" (Essays) Page

BASIC HOW'S AND WHY'S Of Storage of Tension and Memory in the bodily tissues ("normal" and otherwise): When, how and why it is stored and released; communication between body and mind, benefits; proprioreceptors, personal growth, massage/bodywork, therapist's approach, etc. (Published In Massage Magazine, July-August 1992). Newly Added/Rev'd (May'11-July'12) on this page: "The science behind the body-mind relationships" (in the reference section) as well as addendum essays for clarifying these topics for *common sense* preventative maintenance application, as well as further completing the context and clarifying the dynamics and processes involved, including self-help level emotional processing. Page includes "Muscle Q & A" (a kind of overview of the mind-body aspect), "Body Awareness and Communications, as Related to Body-Memory and Integration", "Insight Please", "Cell Talk" - Suggestions on building a healing relationship with ones cells (muscles or otherwise), Adrenal response related to all the above (incl. trauma, long-term conditioning), "EQ, IQ, Emotional Integration, and a Synergetic Relationship", and Reviews for articles on Massage, Alternative Therapies, & Pain, incl. "Study: Massages really can make pain go away"; & Sept 2011 Consumer Report; quotes, commentary & charts.

ChBullet    The "Core Body-Mind Integration Concepts in Context Chart" is now (10/10/11) at the Organization Chart page. It compacts the key points into a relatively small visual space, and provides a summary of them and their implications relative to body-mind preventative maintenance, pain management, other aspects.

ChBullet    "Tensing Yoga" and other Self-Applications
          For Self-Healing, Body-Mind Awareness, & Preventative Maintenance (rev. 7/02, ..7'13).
Technique is explained for context and self-application. TY is about specific applications for chronic muscle pain, related injuries, without need to learn asanas (poses). However, TY may be used to get into positions quicker, easier, and without injury. All of which is critically related to healing or preventing injury. TY could be considered an optimized form of self-applied, neuro-muscular re-education, reinforced with a body-mind connectivity that insures a more comprehensive and long-term response (High Preventative Maintenance Gains). Page sections include those with emphasis on Tension Range, *Work/Rest Ratio*, Muscle Energy Efficiency, individual muscle focus, teamwork/ "edgework", and learn that as we interface with our cells in the way that TY leads us to do, we can directly, and naturally engage that capacity for neuroplasticity - for re-organization of the brain and other neural networks (including proprioceptors in muscles) especially when we include all elements of the approach, including focus, attitude, and rapport with the cells [as covered on the page]. Also on the page: "Low-Intensity Low-Back Exercises" Chart and "Before Rising..." instructions, a fun "Exercise for Illustrating Tension Range...", as well as a "Breathing Ratio Chart" - method & application. Subtopics including the extremely common myths about *Muscle Stretching*, a number of yoga ref-links for specific ailments/conditions as well as for selecting the right form of yoga for you, and about a "Muscle Madness" game!? "Origins of Tensing Yoga & Related Ref's from More *Traditional Yoga*" include my own self-healing story.

ChBullet    "A Gestalt Perspective," and "Seven Phases of Personal Growth" (2 Essays)
A perspective on an approach to and regard for life, one's past and present, as well as a basis for personal growth and/or therapy. I could've called it an integrated 'Gestaltist-Humanist-Buddhist-New Thought' perspective. (You could say these are my main sources, from among the various "schools" of psychology and correlating approaches to application of therapy.)
ChBullet    "Understanding the Pattern Triad and The Body Pattern Assessment"

About Mind-Body Relationships, (from) coping mechanisms, (to) skills, (to) gifts through challenges on one's Life Path. This page is about how the body has habitually responded to experience is evidenced by the body's holding and movement patterns. Includes [Rev'd & New Sections, 12/27/09] "Notes on Mind-Body Correlations - Source-References, Organization of *Body Memory,* and 'WHAT I DO' ". I provide an explaination for a system of assessments and mind-body correlations -- learned and integrated from/for my work with others as well as for my own life process. Other sections include excerpts from "Body Memory and ... Learning Life Lessons." About aspects to be discovered, emotionally cleared, and then employed as mental/emotional assets and guidance towards determining and accomplishing life goals. Note: Keywords referring to, or related to, the same phenomenon: somatic memory, tissue memory, muscle memory, somatic experience, somatic healing, somatic therapy.
Chart  of Pattern Triad & Body-Mind-Spirit Triangle Interfaces, © Chris Pringer Apr'11
"Pattern Triad & Body-Mind-Spirit Triangle Interfaces" sig'd
© Chris Pringer Apr'11

ChBullet   "My Cells - My Children"
And other metaphorical prose for the 'Body-Parenting' approach to Mind-Body Integration. Illustrates the dynamic relationships of Spirit, mind, body, and emotions, as well as the inner-child-parent-family, including the cells, organs, and body systems. New section on "Body-Parenting" in Mind-Body Integration and a powerful form of Preventative Health Maintenance [New 12/16/09]. Based on the "Re-Parenting" approach to personal growth & self-healing, I consider it a powerful adjunct to Body-Mind Integration.

    "Fibromyalgia - Theory with Examples" [NEW, Apr 28-30, 2011] at the Fascia Memory Theory page - a cause and effect theory - about Fibromyalgia's possible "relationship to a perfuse scattering of waste products throughout the fine interstitial spaces among the cells of the muscle tissues, due to their being chronically held *contracted* and under-circulated, including trauma induced contractedness over a broad-area (including by being forcibly tickled in early childhood)..." (Maybe it's no accident that this came along shortly after the visualization chart at the page, "Notes on Beliefs, Healing, and Prayer" or "Bridging Prayer & Science", healing prayer techniques, visual prayer charts.

ChBullet    "The Lower Chakras & Synthesis of Body & Soul" - The body illustrates the dynamic relationship of the shadow elements with one's highest potential. Sections include "BODY MEMORY and the INTERPLAY of SOUL in the LEARNING LIFE LESSONS", "Psycho-Emotional Organization and the Body-Mind...", A Brief Cosmology Regarding the Body-MInd, Attitudes, and Chakras. Includes notes clarifying empathy of the 3rd Chakra from that of 4th or Heart Chakra. I consider the HEART CHAKRA the "bridging" chakra or chalice-Chakra, between the lower and upper chakras. [Rev. 10-96, 2-98, 6-98,5-99, 7-01, 4'11]

    "Notes on Beliefs, Healing, and Prayer"
Or "Bridging Prayer & Science" - faith & intuition, Spirit working logic & emotion, and a little science to boot. Tools for working with the cells - self-healing on an energetic level, plus supportive science, concepts and references, a summary essay, "Cells & Healing Changes: How I Believe What I See; Building, Cleansing, and Paradigm Management; Body-Parenting & Healing Cell-Talk" [Rev'd Apr 2011] and "'Getting Super': Sample Personalized Visualization Prayer Chart" (more application of science than prayer in this case, as related to *Cellular Re-Organization* and engaging *neuroplasticity*.) [New Apr 2011]. Also "Focusing Love-Organized Healing Waters", or Water-Charging (incl. a section for the Neuro-Endocrine System), based on some very inspiring scientific findings by Masaru Emoto, including Dr. Emoto's message for transforming the water (molecules) effected by nuclear radiation. [this page is finally beginning to say what I've always wanted it to! ie: more to come in time.]

ChBullet    "Approaches & Methodologies for Body-Mind Integration"
Suggestions & Resources for Considering Receiving the work as well as for Vocational Considerations. This page might also assist in understanding some basic body-mind concepts.

        EFT or "Emo-Free" Technique (at Other Sites)        

ChBullet Energy Psychology at Southeast Institute
Energy psychology focuses on the interrelationship of energy systems, emotion, behavior, psychopathology, and health. These systems include the electrical activity of the nervous system, acupuncture meridians, chakras, biofields, and morphogenetic fields.
          [ In my opinion, based on discussion with various practitioners of EFT, the "Emo-Free" ("TAP" & related) systems work very well (and relatively quickly) for many people. And for vets and PTSD, EFT can "put the fire out". But it may not result in more than brief relief in cases where the cause of the trouble is based in, or critically anchored to, deep-seated emotions that were traumatically suppressed in early childhood. Per reasons as indicated at pages by yours truly, and/per those references of my teachers in body-centered psychology. I'm referring here to considerations in the difference between Gestalt, New Thought, EFT, and Behavioral schools of psychology, the different approaches to what some of us call "the emotional body", the cause of emotional pain, what we might call "true" preventative maintenance, etc. EFT seems to be a cross between Behavioral and New Thought(?). Exceptions to that would be in the case where, and to the degree that, the associated trauma is simultaneously felt (enough to be validated), observed, and breathed-through, as it moves through the energy system (ie: via polarity/meridian/chakra system if/as applies to one's modality), and to/through the CSF, and thus out of the body, during and/or subsequent to the EFT/related session. Otherwise, how is any associated and stored emotional component, born out of unresolved confusion at an early age, going to get out of the system, for the purpose of creating symptoms, so as to signal the deeper cause, so as to resolve our problems - as we were designed to do? How? - by whatever route the self next finds to work. The trouble is, it might be more destructive, perhaps even better disguised, perhaps "only" internally, via organ disfunction. -Chris Pringer ]
. A good resource page for sample self-applications and related resources is at Feeling Free .Net. Another good reference is Dr. Fred P. Gallo's Energy Psych .Com site submitted, Thank you, by Bruce Tanner. I found the "Preface to Energy Psychology in Psychotherapy" page very informative.


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