Compassion, Healing, and The Practitioner
-- and Detouring "Burn-out"

and related essays

According to the wisdom collected from study, classes, and many teachers,
extracted from contemplative integration and writings, and a little experience...



    Introduction (just below)              Main Essay  
(July, 1988)
    Resources for Burnout and a Visual Affirmation for 'Clarity' (graphic)
    Prose, "The Price Of Compassion"
  (July, 1988)

    The Forgiveness Set including the next three items:
  "The Most Difficult Forgiveness"
(Jul'16)
                                "Forgiveness" - Transcript of Talk by Janeane Weprin
(Jul'16)
                                    Asking for Forgiveness, & What's Trust Got to Do With It?
(Jul'13)

     "More On 'Ideals'" & "...the Concept of Perfection"
    Related Writings & Links

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    Introduction

              Have you heard the one about healing being a "spiritual trap?" It comes from reliable sources, by the way. Could this have something to do with "burnout?" And how about the relationship of compassion to responsibility; of sympathy to "protection," and of love to sacred energy? What is "a healing" and who does it? What would bring "permanent healing" versus a symptomatic alteration of pain or desease? I'm a practical person. What are the key elements of change and growth in a person, and what brings them about? I look for practical definitions for such concepts and situations, and for answers to such questions as regards my work. The following are some of the best I've found so far. On the other hand, discerning feelings and qualities (communicating them accurately) is not easy, so making this sound less than dogmatic, not to mention (overly) idealistic, was the major challenge here, as in many of my early writings, as I tried to find words and make statements that covered many kinds of situations (at least in retrospect, as I became aware of how some folks interpreted them) . But common sense can extract the wisdom even from dogma, and ideals can make fine guideposts, and so I hope some good may come from this. More on the aspect of *Ideals* is included at the end of the essay. As is the "Related Essays" section, where the essays referenced are described and linked to.

 
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COMPASSION

(Main Essay)
Originally Published by Chris Pringer, July 1988 in "The New Times" (Seattle)

          Compassion is the (Higher-) Will empowered desire for the alignment in the flow of unconditional love. It is desire for love raised to the level of the Heart. It is the desire for the integration of, and therefore the Heart's understanding of, Divine Love. Compassion in healing does not weigh probable results of the healing alignment, but trusts that what results is according to the 'Highest Will'. Healing Compassion, therefore, does not involve the prescribing of what would be or what would constitute a healing of someone, except as previously stated. Simply put, Healing Compassion desires the realization of Divine Loving Will manifested in form. And only the receiver and his Higher Self/God knows (less or more consciously) what form/process that is to take from one point in time to the next. Therefore "a healing" might not necessarily appear as a healing at all.

          Healing Compassion enables integration of/by/through the Heart: with the Mind and with the Body. It is said that when one truly understands through experience, then one does not have to remember through the mind. Integration enables practical living of that which is learned. Healing Compassion integrates the healing though the whole person - all levels or bodies - and is thus retained; it is permanent so long as the person retains the attitude(s) gained as a part of self. Emmet Fox said that the door to the soul opens from the inside, so we're not just talking about (the one playing the role of) the practitioner, of course.

          One implication of the above is that an improvement in physical health (alone) is not necessarily "a healing". I am not referring only to basic symptomatic healing that occurs with drugs or other temporary treatments. Even total physiological health might conceivably be returned to a diseased person, yet if the healing is not a healing of Compassion, then the emotional and/or mental bodies have not been healed as well. As a result, the physical body will eventually reflect that contradiction by re-creating conditions related, if not similar, to the original challenge. This is because the attitudes were not integrated throughout the person. [More on the The 'Emotional-Body' in the essay, "Motivation on the Path and in Healing"]

          I would like to make some distinctions to clarify the energy of compassion (from that of sympathy) due to some common misconceptions as to what it is and isn't. Many people say "sympathy" when they are actually talking about heart-level empathy and/or compassion. Compassion acknowledges the Highest in others and in self. It does not maternalize or paternalize, or in any way "take over" for another's learning process. However innocently intended on the conscious level, these serve only to temporarily addict the patient to the energy and/or to the "healer." Compassion honors each person's path, process, inner strengths, and connection to divine assistance and guidance. [Related: the essays, "A Gestalt Perspective" and "Seven Phases of Personal Growth"]

          Compassion acknowledges each person's responsibility for his/her decisions and follow-through toward personal change, including healing. On the other hand, "sympathetic resonance" (sympathy or "feeling sorry for") harmonizes one with another's energies - regardless of another's level of health or disease. Sympathy tends to *take* responsibility for another's learning, change, and growth -- where it needs instead, to be given along with honor and trust). It would set unnecessary limits, and protect the patient from the inevitables of life and, in that way, can be a subtle form of condescension. Related keywords for sympathy as so defined: Co-dependence, controlling, fixing, care-taking, martyrdom, addiction, games.

          Here is also where the "burnout" process begins: when one takes responsibility (credit or blame or sympathy) for another's process or results therefrom, one "picks up" the patient's energy. This is more evident when a care-taker is (consciously or unconsciously) identifying more with the "feeling level" of the situation at hand than with the "management level". True responsibility and care-giving for self and others is necessarily simultaneous or it isn't happening much at all. I believe that a true sense of responsibility -- understanding to what degree one is responsible for who and/or what -- is where a practitioner's "protection" actually comes from (read: proper attitudes, boundaries, and corresponding communication). [Invocative questions for alignment in this regard can be found in "Questions for Boundaries"]

          From there I'll just comment that it can be challenging to learn that "the universe hands us no more that we can handle". Compassion is also a gift of experience, of pain if you will. And this is not to imply judgment of one who chooses on some level to share into a patient's karma via the healing process as a vehicle. EG: Shamans have been known to "take on" their patient's issues/desease and then process it, while resonating the healing process with the patient. In this way the shaman *consciously* works with the same energies at the same time, and in effect guides the patient (on an energetic level, and maybe also in practical and tangible settings) through the process. That kind of empathic exchange is actually more common than one might think, although it is done to a much lesser degree, usually unconsciously, and usually not with without a lot of pain for all concerned. It is not advised for the average healing practitioner to attempt, and it may be argued that just as effective (and less painful) means of healing facilitation are now used for most any condition.

          Responsible compassion, then, raises the levels of both practitioner and patient by acknowledging the highest capacities and potentials -our worthiness to be all that we are. The pain of learning compassion comes from holding on to old ideas, habits, boundaries, and associations; from old ways of being and doing. It comes from the resistance to the changes that one knows deep within are best. One "new thought" philosophy likes to say, "Let go and let God," another "simple but not easy" opportunity. On the other hand, how can one defend the experience pain (against those who would make it "wrong") without increasing the experience of it? I believe that someone in pain needs one to be there and listen, not to either judge their condition or to agree with it. One thing needed then is a 'presence' that honors the path through which the person is learning to fully accept and unconditionally love all of self. I here refer you to the prose at the Inner Communications page, "Communications and Healing: Trusting the Connections" and "Bringing My Family Together".

Compassion" essay continued after these resources:
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From Steven Levine

"If our habitual conditioning is to overcome our pain, we will have a tendency to feel overwhelmed when things don't go the way we wish. We may even feel a need to "beat" another's pain. We will find it difficult to connect with them just where they are. We won't be able to touch them with love because if we want anything from somebody, even for them to be out of pain, they will be an object in our mind rather than the subject our heart. If we can open to our own pain and explore our resistances and long-held aversions, there arises the possibility of touching another's pain with compassion, of meeting another as we meet ourselves with a bit more clarity and tenderness. We see in such instances how the work we do on ourselves is clearly of benefit to all sentient beings. Each person who works to open his heart touches the heart of us all. When we are no longer recreating the problem, we reaffirm the solution. We discover from day to day how the healing we do for ourselves is a healing for us all."
      -- Stephen Levine in "Healing into Life and Death", a most highly esteemed author in the art of understanding, including of the books, "Who Dies?: An Investigation of Conscious Living and Conscious Dying", and "A Gradual Awakening"

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Compassion" essay continued:

          Have you ever wondered why great teachers have contracted great diseases or created intensely painful experiences? Dennis Adams teaches that masters do this intentionally in order to lessen the magnetism of the planetary entity (thought-created consciousness) of that condition. Through unconditionally loving the condition as part of their chosen path, the teacher not only radiates great compassion into the world in general, but also magnetizes the energy of that condition with Love, and when the condition leaves his/her body it rejoins the planetary entity of that condition. But instead of feeding that entity with more helplessness, denial, fear, and shame, the returned Love-Wisdom energy permeates the thoughtform with Compassion-empowered Loving Understanding of it all as part of the planetary process of it becoming whole. This is the greatest means of transmutation and yet we can gradually learn to do this for the conditions we encounter in ourselves and others, including anger, depression, fear, helplessness, etc., not to mention physical situations. Related to integration of Spirit and Body-Mind is the writing, "Class Questions and Topics for 'Body-Mind Integration and the Chalice'

          Whence comes compassion and understanding? From the pristine heights of the pure and perfect? That's not exactly the way things happen on Earth, according to the ancients: Sacred energy is the basic energy of all Life in manifested form. It is also called "Kundalini" or "Life Force," depending on the context and/or activity one is referring to. One could say that the Sacred energy gets divided into two paths. Yet these two paths are continuously dividing and crossing -- respectively setting and ceasing bio-electric charges along the way -- again and again. This brings about (certainly at least to the senses) a world of duality. Duality and the attraction of opposites is the basis of the manifested universe and even still, it is the platform/vehicle through which we realize unity.

          The "Chalice Integration Art"page has a philosophical interpretation related to the Unity/Duality Paradox (you will need to use your browser's "Back" key to return here). Sacred energy in the lower centers might be felt/expressed as desire for sexual gratification (and perhaps only as that initially). It desires/attracts the level of love that corresponds to that level of relating. Sacred energy, when raised to higher levels, is felt/expressed as desire for higher levels of relating. The term "Sexual" originally meant "sacred", and not "profane," by the way. Therefore, it is as unlimited as we allow/will/facilitate that energy to be transformed - and to be expressed. More on related topics at "... Synthesis of Body & Soul... Psycho-Emotional Organization and the Body-Mind... Attitudes, and Chakras"

          Sexual energy raised to the level of the Heart (energy center) expresses as desire for love at that level - "unconditional love." Sacred Energy brings up to the heart-level the gifts of the lower centers, including the drive of the center at the base of the spine, the creative passion of the sacral center, the discernment and discrimination of the solar plexus, and then combines the wisdom of the crown center, the insight of the "3rd Eye" center, and God's Will/Communications/EnergyManagement of the throat center, for transmutation and transformation at that interconnecting/integrating heart center. Whence comes compassion, a desire for Love's permiation - the love that asks for nothing in return, but desires the realization/greater awareness of Divine Love.

          What has all this got to do with healing being a "spiritual trap?" In Bill Cosby's "Noah and the Arc" story, he joked that when a neighbor asked Noah why he was building the ark with all the dry land around, Noah answered, "I'll give you a hint: How long can you tread water (?) haa, haa, haa" So I might answer that first question with, "How long can you tread karma?" Here I am referring to intention, clarity, compassion, and responsibility in regard to what we consider our role to be in relation to other people's growth process.

          I believe that this writing on healing would not be complete without mentioning the quality of Gratitude. One affirmation-prayer I would like to share here toward the healing of other and/or self: "I give thanks for your realization of your (inherent) worthiness to be perfectly healed in accord with the Highest Loving Will for your Divine Plan fulfilled." I have found Gratitude to be a sacred tool for realizing at once (a degree of) both Divine Power and Divine Humility -- another pair of qualities that I believe are either simultaneously realized or not at all. Giving thanks serves as a catalyst: it opens channels and magnetizes Joy and enthusiasm to bind the intender to the intention in Feeling (in the emotional body), and then to the intended (the actualization), transmuting time in the process, and it can bring ready opportunity for praising All Manifestion Present as Divinely Ordained.

          The following poem was written from a state of consciousness that, I must say, I have not been able to maintain through many of my more difficult challenges. I include it here to complement the subject matter of this writing, and to state an IDEAL for attainment.



THE PRICE OF COMPASSION

Compassion is Allowing even of unallowingness,
of apathy, and of disinterest in
another's compassionate (l)oneliness.

Compassion is merciful to its bearer's own suffering
and patient with his confusion
and recognizes the Love-Wisdom that follows.

Compassion seeks Love in the strangest of places-
it being the fuel for the adventuring soul,
the heart of Courage, the Clarity of determination,
the path of Purpose, the reward of hardship.

Compassion is the doorway to realizing adversity
as the doorway to realizing Gratitude
as the Seed of Meaning, and makes a Garden
for the flowers of Grace, and acknowledges both
Victory and defeat as the conception of new Life and growth.

Compassion heals by knowing each and everything
as an essential part of All --
Compassion is Complete, yet is always Open.

Compassion gives up everything-including Freedom,
but allows all into its Heart
that has the abandon of Faith to Enter --
OM AH HUM VAJRA GURU PADMA SIDHI HUM
My Guru Heart Lightning Manifesting Unbearable Compassion

Compassion values all that is without
anything that is said to be valuable,
yet its price is only that which would bind it-
including expectations of Understanding
or even of Acceptance of its very own Love.





Original version of article with above poetry,
"Sacred Energy, Compassion, and Healing" by Chris Pringer,
published in The New Times, of Seattle, Washington, July 1988
(References added later, of course)



"The HeartMath Solution"

The "Compassion vs Sympathy" concept used here -as well as of "Entrainment" or conscious proactive 'sympathetic resonance'- are explained and elaborated very pricely in the book, "The HeartMath Solution" by Doc Childre and Howard Martin with Donna Beech. How the book does that is of note here. EG: the "properly stubborn" (Wink) analytical mind will benefit greatly from how the book translates so thoroughly the emotional realm into organized sets of dynamics, as mentally understandable as they can be, using science and charted physiological correlations. That concept initiates more obviously in the chapter, "Higher Heart Vs Lower Heart," but only just begins there. Enjoy!




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Resources for Burnout

Keywords & References to Prevent Burnout, or move through it quicker:
[ for text refs, can use "right-click, save as" to download ]

  •   "Cording" & "Warding", "Power of Spoken Word" Including sections on *As Relates to Health Care And Other Service Trades; *Chakra Relationships, *Psychological, Ethical, Or "Attitudinal" Considerations; *Empathy, Caring, Codependance, Mirrors & "Points Of Resonance;" *Physical Ramifications Of Emotionally Toxic Relationships; "Gestalt Positivity" as related to Pain; "Energy Redistribution", "Qigong" with Basic Exercises; and various resource links. (via WARDING[CordRemoval]-2.Txt (Text file)

  •   Also on clearing/Cutting/Attenuating Cords: Acknowledging (and affirming) you are responsible *only* for those people and situations you consciously want to be. A special section on that has been added to the "Q's for Boundaries" (separate web page).

  •   "WHY PAIN? Notes on Pain, Awareness & Denial" (Physical and other levels) -- Aspects in Developing a Practical Approach with Compassion (separate web page)

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Visual Affirmation for Seeing
for Clearing and Clarifying all perceptual capacities
Suggestions for use below


Visual 'Affirmation for 'Seeing''', for Clarifying and Clearing, by Chris Pringer Dec'12
Visual Affirmation for Seeing, Clearing, and Clarifying
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This visual affirmation (for clarity with ALL perceptual capacities, actually) is based on principles of various therapeutic systems, including Chi Gung, for bringing about greater balance of energies in your system. It employs no subliminal messages or faces, but does employ chalice art and related symbology (ie: "bridging", "integrating"). It will still work if enlarged to fill your screen (at least to 1280px wide), either via your browswer, or by downloading it, opening and resizing in a graphics program. Please maintain the existing proportions.
    This is designed
  • to be used on a regular basis over the long term;
  • to be used for 5-10-20 minutes, depending on ease/strain/benefits felt;
  • to work, via the eyes, with the chakras - subtly, yet fairly directly,
  • to initially facilitate a very basic level hemisphere syncronization (of the brain)
  • thence engage the upper neuro-endocrine system, indirectly the mid-level chakras,
              And to be performed by
  • gazing, not "efforting", and with focus on breathing more than "seeing"
  • resting eyes on the center, allowing any perifery to be noticed as naturally occurs
  • allowing, not "making" or "looking for", something to happen,
  • noticing what, if anything, you may experience on any level, then returning to resting gaze.
  • focusing on breathing and on the feet, still allowing the eyes to gaze;
        that is, focusing primarily on the raw "Feeling" of the bottoms of the feet
        feeling them touch whatever is touching them with as little imagination
        or conceptualization or other mental involvement as possible.

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The Forgiveness Set
July'13-July'16

          This set features "Forgiveness", the talk by Janeane Weprin at Saltwater Unitarian Universalist Church, July 26th, 2015. Which I will call the most comprehensive coverage on the process that I've ever heard spoken or even read.
         Only one aspect did she not cover. And the coverage of that is what I will add in the first essay because it is relatively brief: "The Most Difficult Forgiveness" (by yours truly).
         After Jeneane's transcript is the essay that was originally here, "Asking for Forgiveness".


"The Most Difficult Forgiveness"
(published only by email until now, Aug'15-July'16)

         This is not about one event, but a series of events. In this case it begins months or years in the past, initiated by an event, associated w/ PTSD, and/or is initiated and followed-up with additional event(s) that are associated with the first and with PTSD. In addition to that, the events, so associated, are continuing up to the time of the attempted forgiveness for these events, AND are expected to continue AFTER the time of attempted or actual forgiveness. Lets call it "Multi-&-Continuing-Event PTSD-engaged Injury" and related challenge for forgiveness. AND By Forgiveness, I mean "complete" forgiveness, with associated memories fully intact, unsuppressed, etc. I know of persons who have experienced this, are experiencing this on a personal level, and which event(s) to be forgiven are not related to political events.
          [The fact that communication about such injuries by the victim is also extremely difficult, and the fact that THAT might ALSO be surprising to some people, brings me to say that the reasons for why those fact are facts, would best be covered by the topics at the "Why Pain" page, the description and link for which page is in the "Related Writings & Links" section below. But I digress...]
         To add the more extreme example, imagine being someone who is undergoing continuing torture - for years - yet finds it within his/her heart to forgive even while knowing it will continue. Granted the PTSD may not be there, depending on the nature of the trauma in the earlier phase(s), and/or at other more early events in his/her life. Nelson Mandela and Martin Luther King come to mind here.
         AND there is a great many people who are experiencing this, to one degree or another, as related to race, religion, culture, and various political events, I believe. (Or rather, I know in my heart that is true). In that regard I am also aware of politicians who are taking advantage of this multi-&-continuing-event type of injury and related extreme difficulty in forgiveness - that is, including one in particular who is [currently] very much depending on this advantage-taking to gain a very high office and great power [Noted July 23, 2016]. And there's that aspect of revenge, which is not the same as accountability seeking, let alone justice. While forgiveness and accountability go hand in hand, (as noted in various places at this website (with elaboration as to how and why), revenge and acountability do not.


Forgiveness

Transcript of talk given by Janeane Weprin
Saltwater Unitarian Universalist Church, July 26th, 2015



Readings by Lewis B. Smedes, a renowned author, ethicist, and theologian.

   1.    People who have been wronged badly and wounded deeply should give themselves time and space before they forgive... There is a right moment to forgive. We cannot predict it in advance; we can only get ourselves ready for it when it arrives... Don't do it quickly, but don't wait too long... If we wait too long to forgive, our rage settles in and claims squatter's rights to our souls.

   2.    If we say that monsters [people who do terrible evil] are beyond forgiving, we give them a power they should never have... they are given the power to keep their evil alive in the hearts of those who suffered most. We give them power to condemn their victims to live forever with the hurting memory of their painful pasts. We give the monsters the last word.
   3.    When we forgive evil we do not excuse it, we do not tolerate it, we do not smother it. We look the evil full in the face, call it what it is, let its horror shock and stun and enrage us, and only then do we forgive it.
   4.    With... insight, we begin to see both ourselves and our enemies in humbler profiles. We are not really as innocent as we felt when we were first hurt. And we do not usually have a gigantic monster to forgive; we have a weak, needy, and somewhat stupid human being. When you see your enemy and yourself in the weakness and silliness of the humanity you share, you will make the miracle of forgiving a little easier.
   5.    Forgiving does not erase the bitter past. A healed memory is not a deleted memory. Instead, forgiving what we cannot forget creates a new way to remember. We change the memory of our past into a hope for our future."
   6.    You will know that forgiveness has begun when you recall those who hurt you and feel the power to wish them well.
   7.    To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you.


A Personal Reflection on Forgiveness
by Janeane Weprin Summer 2015


         First, let me say thank you to Rachael and Joanne. I am so grateful they sang for us this morning, and so beautifully. What a blessing they are to us!

         Amazing Grace, In the Arms of the Angel, Spirit of Life…You may think my choice of songs this morning a bit odd and wonder how they are connected to forgiveness. They are for me, and I hope that will make more sense by the end of the service. For now I will say that each, in its own way, is about the power of Love to lift us up, to transform us. Each is about the power of our hearts to feel compassion, to heal, and to forgive.

         Forgiveness is a huge, complex, and highly sensitive subject. I understand that to forgive or not is an entirely personal matter for each of us. Experts in the fields of personal growth and psychology have proclaimed the power of forgiveness to heal. Many (or most) religions, from Christianity to Islam to Buddhism and others teach that we need to forgive; that it is the only solution, the only way to peace, the only way to end our suffering. I don't know if that is true or not. What I do know is that for me, it is about the kind of person I want to be, and how I want to live my life. It has taken me many years to truly understand forgiveness. I am grateful for, and honored by this opportunity to share what I have learned and experienced.

         This is the second time I have spoken about forgiveness before a church congregation. The first time was about seven years ago at my church in Illinois, also a UU church. And I find it isn't any easier the second time around! It still makes me nervous, but my hope is that what I say may help or inspire or at least one person. If that happens, it will be worth it. In preparing for that service I wondered how much of my own story to include because my intent was not to focus on my story, but to share my understanding of forgiveness. However, my understanding of forgiveness is intricately tied to my story. What to do… at that time, two wise women, both long time UUs, gave me some excellent advice.

         One said not to include anything I wouldn't want in a newspaper headline, or on Facebook. Hmmm… The other pointed out that telling one's story is a UU thing to do. She said that people like and learn from each others' stories. As UUs we don't have a creed. We are each on our own individual journeys, and sharing helps us to learn from each other. Their advice still stands today. So this is both my understanding of, and my story of, forgiveness.

         Sadly, like so many others, I grew up in an extremely abusive home. I was brutally abused in just about every way possible by both of my parents, though differently by each. I grew up believing that I was worthless, that I was not loved; that I was in fact not lovable. It is a sad and horrible story. It has taken me many years and much hard work to heal from my past. I share this so that you will know that it was my parents I struggled most to forgive. One could say they were my greatest teachers on this subject.

         For years I struggled with forgiving my parents. I wanted to forgive them, but it seemed I could not, no matter how hard I tried. Complicating matters, there were differences between forgiving my father and forgiving my mother. It was much less of an issue with my father than it was with my mother. What he had done was so heinous, no one expected me to forgive him, especially no one in my family. The situation with my mother was much more difficult. Everyone in my family, other than me, had what seemed to be a good relationship with my mother. I knew it caused them pain and turmoil that I could not forgive her and reconcile with her. From their perspectives there was nothing to forgive, but it was different for me. My mother hurt me deeply in ways they may never understand, and I don't really expect or need them to. I just wanted peace for me, and for my family, so most of my struggles to forgive centered on my mother.

         People told me I should forgive my parents, especially my mother. After all, they were my parents, they would say. I felt like people didn't understand. They didn't have a clue what they were asking me to do. At the same time I wanted to forgive them. I was so angry and hurt, and I didn't like feeling that way. I felt twisted up inside, trapped, and helpless to move forward. I didn't want the past to rule my life. Not forgiving was out of alignment with the type of person I wanted to be. I wanted to be a loving caring person, not an angry hateful one. I wanted to forgive my parents so I could move forward in my life. I wanted freedom.

         I had so many questions. What is forgiveness? What does it mean to forgive? How can we forgive? Is it even the right thing to do in all cases? Are some people (say Hitler) or actions (rape, murder) simply unforgivable? What about the different kinds of forgiveness - self-forgiveness, forgiveness of another person, forgiveness of a group of people, forgiveness of God, and ultimately forgiveness of life itself for not being as we want it to be? And how does reconciliation fit in? Can there be true or complete forgiveness without reconciliation? I wanted answers!

         So I tried. I worked on it. I read a lot of books, and there are many books on the subject. The best I found was Forgive for Good by Frederic Luskin. I understood that forgiveness meant to let go of what happened; to let go of the anger and blame. Nevertheless I was left with even more questions. How does one just let go of such deep hurt and anger? Does forgiveness mean that what happened doesn't matter anymore? Does it mean excusing what happened? Does it mean one is supposed to continue in a relationship with the person that hurt us as if nothing ever happened? (This is what my siblings hoped I would do with my mother.)

         During this time, I thought about the words some people believe Jesus said on the cross, "Forgive them Father, for they know not what they do." I wondered why Jesus would have felt the need to ask God to forgive his executioners. Wouldn't Jesus have understood that God alone was capable of absolute understanding and forgiveness? Perhaps what Jesus was doing was asking God to forgive his executioners because he, Jesus, couldn't do it himself? Perhaps he was turning over forgiveness of his executioners to God, and therein lies the lesson. Should forgiveness of travesties too big for us be turned over to a power higher than ourselves? More questions.

         Although I did not know it at the time, I was trying to forgive by using my mind, not my heart. I was trying to think my way into forgiving rather than feel my way to it. What I did not understand yet was that forgiveness is a shift in consciousness felt in the heart, not the head. I didn't know yet that it is not something I could force or decide to do or make happen. I didn't know yet that forgiveness happens when my heart is open. I also did not know that for me forgiveness would be a process of forgiving over and over again, at deeper and deeper levels each time. I had thought forgiveness would be a one-time thing, once and done, but I learned, to my dismay that I was wrong.

         Years ago I had my first taste of forgiveness. It happened one morning while I was driving to work. I was listening to a book on tape, Before and After by Rosellen Brown. The book is a powerful and compelling novel about the emotional effects on a family caused by the son murdering his girlfriend. I was listening to the part of the book in which the son relates to his parents and sister the circumstances in which the murder takes place. It was so human; the forces that acted upon the son and his girlfriend. The humanness struck a chord in me, the frailty of being human; how vulnerable we are to our emotions. I do not understand why that realization led me to feeling truly, for the first time, a sense of forgiveness. All I know for sure was that something in my heart opened. I understood then that we are all subject to our humanness, our weaknesses. People do things to hurt each other. How do we live with this reality and move past it? Forgiveness gives us the way.

         The next time I felt forgiveness was many years later. It happened when I was transcribing a Rumi poem from a recording. As I was doing this, I recalled that my mother had a book of poetry by Kahlil Gibran. As I sat there, it dawned on me that she wanted the same things in life as I did. I saw her humanity, and in that moment, I forgave her. It was pure grace. I was overcome by anguish at the burden I had carried in not being able to forgive her. It felt wonderfully freeing to have it lifted. A few days later I sent my mother a note telling her that I forgave her and I thanked her for bringing me into this world. I never heard back from her and that was okay. I did not need a response and was not interested in reconciliation. I just wanted release, peace, and freedom for both of us. I thought I was done. I wasn't.

         In the final years of her life, my mother lived in Florida with my youngest brother. Although I had forgiven my mother, I had not seen or spoken with her for years. Then she had a third heart attack and was not expected to live much longer. My sister asked me go to Florida with her. I didn't want to go, but I couldn't abandon my sister, so I went. By the time I got there my mother had rallied a bit. Everyone was surprised she was still alive, but she was in critical condition. The very first day I visited, she asked to speak with me alone. I dreaded this. I didn't want to be alone with her. I did not want to talk with her about the past. I knew that would only cause pain for both of us. But I agreed, feeling a deep anxiety, feeling trapped. I didn't know what to say. And then something entirely unexpected happened.

         I found myself kneeling before my mother. I took her face in my hands, and looked her directly in her eyes and said it does not matter. I told her the Truth as I had come to know it. I told her I knew what she was, that I knew what was in her heart. I put my hand over her heart and told her I knew she was Love; that we are all the same. We are all manifestations of God's Love, despite the ugly terrible things we do to each other. I told her I didn't understand why things are as they are, why suffering exists, why we are in this human form. Afterwards, I was pretty shocked at what happened. It was very powerful. In a million years, I never would have guessed I could say those words to my mother.

         My mother died a few days after we left Florida. We had her memorial six months later. It was a complicated and difficult time for me. I am not sure what happened that day in my mother's hospital room, but my best guess is that I surrendered and allowed Love and Forgiveness to flow through me. It was again, pure grace.

         A year later, I was dismayed to find that I was, once again, struggling with forgiveness, and this time it was my father. While on a retreat, severe rage at my father had surfaced unexpectedly and it occurred to me that the only way out of that pain and anger would be to forgive my father. I tried, but I couldn't do it, of course. I never could make myself forgive or will it to happen. I had to let go of trying and trust it would happen in its own time.

         When I got home, I shared my struggle with a dear friend, and he gave me some excellent advice. He told me that what I needed to do was not to forgive my parents, but love them. What? Was he crazy? How in the world was I going to be able to do that? He said it was a message he got from the Universe. Gee thanks. Now my task was to open my heart to both of my parents, to the people who were supposed to love me in this life and never did, the people who hurt and abused and terrorized me. I was supposed to love them? And I thought forgiveness was hard!

         As it turns out my friend was right. I was in the middle of typing a response about why loving my parents was impossible when unexpectedly, and it was again pure grace, I felt the soft sweet presence of Love flow into me. As I sat there in front of my computer with tears streaming down my face, I had a vision of my parents, each lying in a small bed with white sheets and blankets. I saw myself kneel by each of them, and I soothed them like they were children, softly caressing their faces. I said it is okay. It really is okay. I love you. Thank you for giving birth to me. Rest now. Lie quiet now. Be at peace. Be with Love. Be the Love that you are. Then I heard in my head the song In the Arms of An Angel and through my tears, I sang the last verse to them.


In the arms of an Angel fly away from here
From this dark, cold hotel room, and the endlessness that you fear
You are pulled from the wreckage of your silent reverie
You're in the arms of an Angel; may you find some comfort here
You're in the arms of an Angel; may you find some comfort here


         Forgiveness of my parents has been a journey back to love. It has not happened all at once. It has come in stages or degrees. I continue to have experiences of forgiveness of my parents. It always surprises me that I can go deeper, that I can feel even more love and joy and freedom each time. I don't know if I will ever be "finished" forgiving them. Only time will tell. One of my spiritual teachers, who I love dearly, told me once, "None of this is a once-and-for-all thing. Once-and-for-all is magical thinking. The reality is you must work at uncovering your love for those who hurt you. You must renew your giving attitude over and over and over, and against your fears and instincts to protect yourself. You find you are called to choose giving it up, loving, and understanding the truth, over and over and over through layer after layer after layer of pain." He is a very wise man.

         If there are shortcuts to forgiveness, I haven't found any. It is hard work; possibly the work of a lifetime. It is tempting to want to skip over dealing with the hurt or anger and jump straight to forgiveness. I don't think it works that way. Although sometimes teachings on forgiveness make it sound simple or easy, it never was for me. I had to be really clear about what it was I was forgiving. I had to face and accept the truth of what happened and be willing to feel the fear, betrayal, pain, anger, and shame, no matter how excruciating. I had to empty myself of those emotions, and the energy stored in them to make space in my heart for love and forgiveness to enter. Equally as important and difficult to do, I had to learn to open my heart to myself; to let go of false beliefs; to love, accept, and forgive myself. I couldn't pass over or go around any of this work on the path to forgiveness.

         While there may be no shortcuts on the path, there may be a key to unlocking forgiveness. I believe the key is truly wanting to forgive; intending to forgive with all your heart and all your soul, and then surrendering to Grace. I could never make myself nor will myself to forgive, as much as I tried. My friend put it this way: "Seems like the only way to get there is to connect with the divine within, and then open one's heart and hope or pray for grace and love to emerge."

         My experience of forgiveness has been one of joyful anguish; a wild mix of relief and sadness, openness and completion, old sorrows and new beginnings. And I know, with every ounce of my being, the struggle was worth it. I did not do it alone. I know now I was never alone. I was held by so many, by God, by Love, even when I did not know it. Finding forgiveness has released me, and I believe it has released my parents. It has given me the freedom I hoped it would. I now have a life filled with love and joy beyond anything I had ever dreamed possible. For me, forgiveness is the opening of one's heart to Love. Love is Everything. Love is all there is.

         Peace and Blessings. Amen.

         Our closing words are from the UUA Worship Web:

Now may the love of truth guide you,
the warmth of love hold you,
and the spirit of peace bless you,
this day and in the days to come. Amen.

 

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Asking for Forgiveness
By Chris Pringer July'13

          There are folks who have forgiven themselves, having paid in some way what they consider is sufficient recompense, and having accepted that God has forgiven them for one reason or feeling or another. There are folks that feel or believe they (themselves) will never be forgiven, but also tend to think of others as unworthy of forgiveness also, regardless of how much recompense they feel they have paid in either case. And there are those that forgive others easily, with little or no recompense paid, but do not for themselves.
          However, you can divide the latter into two groups, those that are actually like group two, but believe they forgive, while unconsciously forgetting without forgiving, and those that have been "trained" by experience from childhood to always find the essential unforgivable fault within themselves.

          And actually, all these groups are most influenced by their early experiences, whether or not their parents and/or guardians intended or even knew about any such belief formation, let alone about the future impact. We're keeping all this pretty simple here, but we could complicate the matter a wee bit - by further dividing these groups into those who tend to punish themselves first - after others victimize them (!!), and those who tend to punish others first. And then there's such questions of whether the harm-doer is required to pay or just anyone will do, which is a good place to stop digression; but all of which can effect the beliefs about, or the subjective (internal) influences upon, the nature of forgiveness.

          IN ANY CASE, when someone is subjected to pressure from within or without to *ask for forgiveness*, the type of response to that pressure can depend greatly upon which group or groups that individual most falls into. In fact, we can probably easily imagine situations where two individuals, each from a different group, each expect the other to ask for forgiveness - and for the same event, or events they feel are the same or related in some way.
          Ok, no big news flashes or insights yet, right? But now, based on the above, and upon how we have witnessed individuals acting, we can look at most wars down through history - groups of people who blame each other group for the cause of insult or damages to themselves - and we could trace their war(s) back to issues related to conflicting expectations, about who is "supposed" to ask whom for forgiveness and pay recompense, and/or whether anyone really needs to. That does sound familiar, right?

          So, looking at all this pro-actively, the question might become how to mediate between individuals or groups that believe differently, not just about "the other", but about how forgiveness and recompense works, or whether it even happens, or whether it should happen. And perhaps, about what kind of recompense sufficiently prevents wrong-doing and when, or simply influences an individual to become the most productive, loving, contributive, etc. And if we determined that for each type of individual, we might gain insight about groups in conflict as well. [ Related Ref: "The Empathy Movement" at the "Chalice Integration Arts & Sciences" page,]



What constitutes Forgiveness?
By Chris Pringer Sept'09 (at Facebook)

I may have put the cart before the horse, but for now, I'll add put here:

          What constitutes Forgiveness? Blind acquiescence? Well, of course not. Why would it be said that forgiveness is divine were it not challenging, and yet something that we mortals can learn more and more about. Teaching structure to children requires forgiveness, yet a certain amount of structure must be taught. A child is not deemed dependable [latter to become 'trustworthy'] without a certain degree of understanding of the structure.

          "TRUST" might be the keyword here. Referring to trusting a person to be who s/he actually is, or to be as capable of something as s/he actually is - at that time, to the best of our knowledge. ie: We trust a child to be a child. And so, we may forgive a child or even an adult for trespassing a boundary, but that does not mean we teach them effectively by trusting them too quickly - or until we *know* the lessen is learned. "Putting trust into" someone or something implies a risk, right? Hence, forgiveness does not necessarily imply trust, and memory serves well with patience until a lessen is learned. And if we simply come to forget or deny that we should wait, well, one cannot truly forgive a pain that has been suppressed, nor heal the pain that one can not feel. In this regard, (the dimension of) Time and Space is a required experience for those incarnated in a human body. While one's Soul may demand the forgiving of individuals who take advantage, the process of trust can be a more practical matter. Trying to make forgiveness a simple act is part and parcel with the nature of denial that led to the acts currently to be forgiven. Forgiving is not forgetting, trust is not denial, and compassion truly learned always requires painful effort in the experience of learning.

In one of the more complex applications of the above
(all the above, as regards forgiveness, that is):
          One need not forgive oneself for having endured horrendous events, then survived them by creating a coping mechanism that includes a "martyr triangle" (a set of revolving roles of Rescuer, Victim, & Persecutor). Which mechanism necessitates a process of denial of that pattern in order to maintain it. But the process of healing usually encounters tremendous guilt (taught to the victim by the original persecutors before the victim was mature enough to recognize it). But before such forgiveness is accomplished (not for oneself, but for the persecutors), one need process the events that led one to create the coping mechanism. And then one no longer perpetrates that triangle pattern of events on others. Which pattern (prior to healing) generally makes it easy to project divine attributes on those one may rescue, then feel a victim of, then persecute, while denying the reality of the whole process. Of course, the "simplest" sense is rarely simple in the depth of reality. And here, one is learning to trust one's own process in learning to fully understand oneself. With that accomplished, or to the degree that it is, one learns *how* to trust others in various ways and depths as well.

          I believe that if one wants to improve the situation that one is actually in (and not a dream world where we want to be), one must begin where one is, and step by step transition one's environment. Which always includes others who's process need be considered as well. Whose and which processes one has only so much permission to work with (with regard to the laws of karma, *under* which come those of alchemy). [I Didn't mean for that to sound so formal, let alone cryptic, I was paraphrasing a summary of what I've been taught, trying to compress it into a short space. The law of Karma implies you can't just force others to change (and one reaps what one sows, in this lifetime or in another). The "laws of alchemy" have to do with changing lead, or dense circumstances, into gold - or light and love. We all have the power and, it is said, it comes primarily through sincerity and effort in truly being one self - but also in achieving one's highest potentials. Yes, and it does take effort, and yes, all that, even as corny as that may sound. smile ]


Mirrored from essay, "Emotion and Motivation on the Path and in Healing"





More On "Ideals"
By Chris Pringer 1'11

          For many readers as well as this author, many of the ideals stated or implied on various pages at my site are supremely challenging to say the least, and understandably so. I present them because I believe they help us formulate a useful vision by which we can effectively develop realistic and purposeful goals. Very few get to live up to our highest ideals, but without ideals, what would we live up to?
          More pragmatically (?) on the subject: "The Goal Chart - A Flow-Chart of the Human Psyche in Growth Facilitation and The Achievement of Goals, Attainment, and the Role of Inner-Work".
          And "Heart's Desire, Ideals, & Accomplishment" (same page, Aug'11) is about clarifying what we most truly want, and how we can have that... also about HOW we respond to Pain & Loss (whether caused by disease, ourselves, others, or the economy) and are brought back together again.
          At the "Evo-Trends" page, are sections, "On Potential Realities, Ideals, Goals, and Accomplishment" and "Seven Phases of Evolution". On the later: 'This perspective (using a system of evolution/growth phases) is provided as a vehicle or means for the study of evolution - so that we might look at where we are now, relative to where we want to go. So that our ideals and purpose for living might be considered in depth, as well as in the long term, "macro-cosmically" if you will. And thereby, we might develop the goals and plans that may effectively assist us in surviving the impending global challenges we face today.'

Idealism & the Concept of Perfection
By Chris Pringer Aug'16


         Idealism: shooting for perfection, knowing that in one sense, there is no such thing, because perfection is an individual thing and even then one needs to keep an appropriate balancing concept in mind, one that includes tolerance, empathy, and compassion for others as well as for self.
 
Most Appropriate Questions On Chalice Garden Tapestry by Chris Pringer 9'12(background) & 7'16
"Most Appropriate Questions On Chalice Garden Tapestry"
by Chris Pringer 7'16 (Background of Sept'12)

Most Appropriate Questions On Chalice Garden Tapestry by Chris Pringer 9'12(background) & 7'16
""Intwined Hearts Chalice Shimmering Turquoise Vortexes" by Chris Pringer April'13
Available full size at my gallery at Fine Art America
           That implies forgiveness for when oneself -and especially others- falls short of ones own ideals, even while maintaining the attitudes that work for oneself to keep trying. Including improving on one's ideals as needed. The latter may not fit some definitions of "idealism"- ie: when viewed as an empassioned never-changing set of fixed beliefs. Learning (here) implies ever-improving ones perception about principles, directions, and life purpose, efficiency for improving attitudes in focusing ones passion.

         Shooting for perfection is like walking on a balancing bar, knowing you will fall off, but getting back on and trying to do it better anyway. Knowing your current limitations is the first step to succeeding to any degree. Otherwise "perfection" has problems for us - extremisms of various sorts result from troubles with the concept- ie: when one forces one's own unachievable concept of perfection upon others. Mainly because any real perfection is about unconditional love, which is a rare state of mind (if one is truly conscious of ones every motivation- which can be a life's work in itself), let alone manifested reality.

         And perfection is just a concept, however valuable it can be for getting where we truly need to go. That is, ever *towards* the reality we want to create - knowing perfection itself will never be a physically manifested reality. Such a concept of perfection is a great vehicle, but if we confuse the vehicle with the destination, then brick walls arise on the path. That is, perfection is not a physical reality but a state of mind, not one to be foisted on others, but an individual state of mind, the state of mind that keeps us on the path in the most perfect way it that is possible for one to manage. And again, that is one with tolerance and compassion, because we will make mistakes, yet learning increasingly better to make increasingly fewer and increasingly lesser mistakes. The preceding is my attempt at summarising much more complete (Buddhist) texts on the subject. Keywords such as "Buddhist concept of perfection" may lead you to other *more perfect* sources. smile

  

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        "A Gestalt Perspective," and "Seven Phases of Personal Growth" (2 Essays)
A perspective on an approach to and regard for life, one's past and present, as well as a basis for personal growth and/or therapy. I could've called it an integrated 'Gestaltist-Humanist-Buddhist-New Thought' perspective. (You could say these are my main sources, from among the various "schools" of psychology and correlating approaches to application of therapy.)

        "Emotion & Motivation on the Path and in Healing."
A Cosmology of what is here referred to as the 'Emotional-Body' - that which provides the motivation or 'drive' for any sustained focus, decision, stance or action. It is the degree of emotion that makes the difference between a held belief and a mere passing thought. Includes "Emotion, Fuel, & 'the Vehicle' - Fueling or Fooling Around?", "Reward, Punishment, Justice, & Change", "Emotion & Intention; Motivation & Detachment; Self & Others", and "Asking for Forgiveness, & What's Trust Got to Do With It?" (Rev'd Jul'13)

        "WHY PAIN? Notes on Pain, Awareness & Denial"
Pertains to Physical and other levels - Aspects in Developing a Practical Approach with Compassion. I begin with basic, more physical-level concepts, and extend into other dimensions from there. There may be more proper medical terms for most of the dynamics I describe, but my purpose is to try to explain a complex but common experience in an understandable fashion. includes short essays, "Intro & Notes on Pain, Pain Reduction, Pain Elimination, Pain Desensitization", "A List Of Factors In The Perception Of Pain", "More On Referral Of Pain", "Delayed Healing", "Why Deep Massage/Bodywork?", "Should A Massage Be Painful?" (therapy may locate, or bring awareness to, what is already there, but should not add to it), "Touch-Sensivity of Muscles...", "Stress & Energy Related Pains", "Notes On Pain From Gestalt Perspective", "Internal Separation And Healing", & [added Aug 2011:] Heart's Desire, Ideals, & Accomplishment - and Healing the Pain.

        Victims, Compassion, & Responsibility
Notes on The Emotional-Body, Denial of Pain, & Easy Answers (not)
- (Edited Feb 20, 2012); integrates a more gestalt psychology-based perspective (and practice) as regards the emotional body, which lends to certain modifications of the cosmology [relative to Buddhist or New Thought perspective] (incl. links for radio show w/interviews of "Hurricane" Rubin Carter)

        "The Empathy Movement"
an assembly of resources and considerations, is currently at the "Chalice Integration Arts & Sciences" page. Also related on that page is 'The Lords of Culture' and Listening- a story about Language, Relationship and Communications, "the body-mind split," emotional intelligence (EQ) as related to IQ, implications and ramifications (cause and effect dynamics) in society, politics, foreign relations, suggestions/ considerations for pro-active response on individual and social levels, etc. Included at the end of the essay, is the chart, "Therapies and Levels of 'The Spectrum of Consciousness'" from Ken Wilber's book, *No Boundary.* Which chart illustrates and book elaborates on the "Left/Right brain split" (very related to the "body-mind split" or "mind-body split", but not exactly the same) and the psycho-spiritual significance of history and the evolution of consciousness during those periods. And "A Kind of Summary For Pragmatic Balance" - eclectically presented summary of links to (more) essays with considerations for pragmatic approach.

    "Notes on Beliefs, Healing, and Prayer"
Or "Bridging Prayer & Science" - faith & intuition, Spirit working logic & emotion, and a little science to boot. Tools for working with the cells - self-healing on an energetic level, plus supportive science, concepts and references, a summary essay, "Cells & Healing Changes: How I Believe What I See; Building, Cleansing, and Paradigm Management; Body-Parenting & Healing Cell-Talk" (Rev'd Apr 2011) and "'Getting Super': Sample Personalized Visualization Prayer Chart" (more application of science than prayer in this case, as related to *Cellular Re-Organization* and engaging *neuroplasticity* (New Apr 2011). Also "Focusing Love-Organized Healing Waters", or Water-Charging (incl. a section for the Neuro-Endocrine System), based on some very inspiring scientific findings by Masaru Emoto, including Dr. Emoto's message for transforming the water (molecules) effected by nuclear radiation. [this page is finally begginning to say what I've always wanted it to! ie: more to come in time.]

        "The Use Of Questions (and Gestalt approach) In Effective Affirmation Therapy"
Theory & Examples for Practical Application. Theory section explains how this (PRQ) system compares to other affirmation techniques and therapies - how and why they work, advantages of PRQ's, etc. Includes Lots of Sample PRQ's (Positive Response Questions) for learning and affirming any desired knowledge, Simple How-To's in developing Pragmatic use of "the right question" -- from a test situation and/or from regular affirmations. Works well for the intangibles (Personal Growth oriented) which many would say has to come before you can truly enjoy the rest anyway. © `94

    The "Body-Mind Integration" (Essays) Page
BASIC HOW'S AND WHY'S Of Storage of Tension and Memory in the bodily tissues ("normal" and otherwise): When, how and why it is stored and released; communication between body and mind, benefits; proprioreceptors, personal growth, massage/bodywork, therapist's approach, etc. (Published In Massage Magazine, July-August 1992). Addendum essays, charts, and sub-sections (May'11 to present) added with the goal of clarifying these topics as more easily understandable for *common sense* preventative maintenance application, as well as further completing the context and clarifying the dynamics and processes involved, including "Body Awareness and Communications, as Related to Body-Memory and Integration", "Muscle Q & A", "Adrenaline vs Endorphins...Brain Activity, Muscles and Tendons ...Aging" about adrenal response related to all the above (incl. trauma, long-term conditioning), "EQ, IQ, Emotional Integration, and a Synergetic Relationship", "Notes on Practical Application Of Gestalt Techniques in Emotional Release," "Insight Please", resources, references, links, and even a few "Reviews for articles on Massage, Alternative Therapies, & Pain," incl. "Study: Massages really can make pain go away"; & Sept 2011 Consumer Report; quotes, commentary & charts. [Note: Keywords referring to, or related to, the phenomenon of body memory: somatic memory, tissue memory, muscle memory, somatic experience, somatic healing, somatic therapy, body-mind split, mind-body split]
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Chris, Feb'11 and Nov'14
"INTEGRATION"
"Integration" in the wholistic or therapeutic sense, implies that the information or skills (whether of the past, remembered, or forgotten) are re-organized and then learned from, in such a healthfully complete or "Integral" way (*Love-Wisdom* in application), that it is understood and used for the highest good. This transforms the most destructive material- that which has been repressed or denied, ie: from trauma - to manageable feelings and information. Sources of which (trauma) can be surprising, and effects of which can be wide-ranging. Other benefits (for which therapies can be specifically geared) include overall preventive maintenance, injury prevention, emotional intelligence-(EQ)-geared neuroplasticity benefits, not to mention more clarity and peace of mind. Most of this site's writings have been focused around the later set, as the process(es) in my own work may involve the "Synergy" of many systems. Whereas the essay, "Body-Mind Integration in Personal Growth Process," (published in "Massage Magazine" in 1992 - on the "leading edge" at the time) explains in lay-technical terms the traumatic origins of body-memory storage, as well as the process of healing. That writing leads off the "Body-Mind Integration Essays" page, which includes a number of related essays, charts, and links to more of same. (Pertains to my more in-depth work, if/as requested.)

        The "Core Body-Mind Integration Concepts in Context Chart" is now (10/10/11) at the Organization Chart page. It compacts the key points into a relatively small visual space, and provides a summary of them and their implications relative to body-mind preventative maintenance, pain management, other aspects.

        "Integration" by Krysta Gibson,
about Common myths vs realities about psycho-spiritual integration; effective guidance about feelings and memories, 'living in the now', 'releasing' events and people, 'forgiving and forgetting' the past - for living the spiritual life fully and meaningfully. Originally published by Krista Gibson in "The New Times" of Seattle. Through the late 80's & most of the 90's, I always read Krysta's essays if I didn't have time to read anything else, and kept copies of various or her articles handy for my clients to take home with them. Still current...

        "My Cells - My Children" & other metaphorical prose
Illustrates the dynamic relationships of Spirit, mind, body, and emotions, as well as the inner-child-parent-family, including the cells, organs, and body systems. New section on "Body-Parenting" in Mind-Body Integration and a powerful form of Preventative Health Maintenance [New 12/16/09). Based on the "Re-Parenting" approach to personal growth & self-healing, I consider it a powerful adjunct to Body-Mind Integration. The page also includes a little artwork in surreal symbolism, "The Chaliverse."

        "Love Letter" self-applied journaling technique (Word doc format)
"Nice name, serious work": This letter format is useful for preparing and/or facilitating deeper communications and/or resolving conflict/issues within self or with another person (ie: parent, former mate, etc). This method can fill a special need for therapeutic dialog with someone who is currently not present, including those who have passed on. Because most of what any person can actually heal, or may be responsible to heal, is within ones own feeling body. It is also valuable for/during various strictly personal therapeutic processes, for simply journaling, including self-dialog between two or more parts of yourself that represent mixed feelings about something. Other benefits include introduction to and practice in additional valuable self-healing techniques: "Self-Parenting;" constructing practical, emotionally integrative affirmations; making decisions about your intention and direction for healing change; and verbalizing those decisions in order to etch them into ones being. The latter initiates the completion of (as yet unmet) essential need(s) of the inner-child, and may manifest changes in related physical symptoms (ie: much less pain). Titled, "How To Write A Love Letter", this is Available in Word doc format or (Unformatted) Text format. [You may also be able to right click on either of those links, select "save link as" (or equivalent), and save the file(s) to your hard drive for later use.]

        "Fibromyalgia - Theory with Examples" (NEW, Apr 28-30, 2011) at the Fascia Memory Theory page - a cause and effect theory - about Fibromyalgia's possible "relationship to a perfuse scattering of waste products throughout the fine interstitial spaces among the cells of the muscle tissues, due to their being chronically held *contracted* and under-circulated, including trauma induced contractedness over a broad-area (including by being forcibly tickled in early childhood)..." (Maybe it's no accident that this came along shortly after the visualization chart at the page, "Notes on Beliefs, Healing, and Prayer" or "Bridging Prayer & Science", healing prayer techniques, visual prayer charts.

Chart  of Pattern Triad & Body-Mind-Spirit Triangle Interfaces, © Chris Pringer Apr'11
"Pattern Triad & Body-Mind-Spirit Triangle Interfaces" sig'd
© Chris Pringer Apr'11
        "Understanding the Pattern Triad and The Body Pattern Assessment" About Mind-Body Relationships, (from) coping mechanisms, (to) skills, (to) gifts through challenges on one's Life Path. This page is about how the body has habitually responded to experience is evidenced by the body's holding and movement patterns. Includes (Rev'd & New Sections, 12/27/09) "Notes on Mind-Body Correlations - Source-References, Organization of *Body Memory,* and 'WHAT I DO' ". Other sections include excerpts from "Body Memory and ... Learning Life Lessons." About aspects to be discovered, emotionally cleared, and then employed as mental/emotional assets and guidance towards determining and accomplishing life goals. I provide an explaination for a system of assessments and mind-body correlations -- learned and integrated from/for my work with others as well as for my own life process. Note: Keywords referring to, or related to, the same phenomenon: fascia memory, somatic memory, tissue memory, muscle memory, somatic experience, somatic healing, somatic therapy.

        "Opening the Bridges & Firing the Cauldrons"
Integrating Energy Work and Self-Healing Instruction into bodywork, is about a "Chalice-Bridging" style chakra balancing, and may include Reiki and/or very basic Qigong instruction. This approach is based in the view that we each are a bridge between Father & Mother GOD/ESSence, & thus form a chalice for the balancing & integrating of Humanity with the Divine. Or at least ideally so, as our systems are *attuned* & our batteries are *charged* & we fullfill our true role as human embodiments of Spirit. And in the belief that the body-mind can be a primary means of access for finding ones Way, developing appropriate and effective relationship among the three "lower bodies" (mental, emotional, and physical, which compose the "Body-Mind". Ref: "Triangle/Triad Interface" Chart above).

        Yi Ren Qigong
Why I enjoy this approach and manner of treatment is explained via Dr. Guan-Cheng Sun's "Guiding Principle # 4: Assist Individuals to Identify and Treat the Root Cause of Their Health Condition. Illnesses do not occur spontaneously. Symptoms are not the causes of diseases but expressions of the body's internal miscommunications. Causes may occur on many levels, including physical, mental, emotional and spiritual. To accurately identify and treat the root cause of diseases with Yi Ren Medical Qigong, there are specific practice routines which can help individuals recover completely. Yi Ren Medical Qigong practice increases both the therapists/practitioners' levels of awareness , assists individuals in identifying the fundamental underlying causes of dis-ease on all levels, and encourages practitioners to work on the root causes rather than symptoms." Articles at the Yi Ren Qigong Center web site include "Guiding Principles of Yi Ren Qigong", "Introduction to Yi Ren Medical Qigong", "Qi Cultivation for Healing Chronic Illness", "The Art of Internal Observation", "The Physiology of the Three Gates". Featuring Dr. Guan-Cheng Sun, PhD., Founder of the Institute of Qigong & Internal Alternative Medicine. Dr. Sun is currently engaged in mind-body medicine and energy medicine research at Bastyr University, Seattle, Washington. He is an expert in Qigong for Functional Pain (pain with no apparent organic causes).

        "Effective Affirmation Therapy
The Use Of 'Positive Response Questions' (PRQ's) and Gestalt Approach"

There's more to Effective Affirmation than repeating positive statements, Attitude, Approach, and Technique can make all the difference, especially for highly challenging times, severe pain, etc. How's, Why's, of 'Positive Response Questions' (PRQ's) and Gestalt Approach, Samples, Ref-Links, & more

        "Achievement of Goals, Attainment, And the Role of Inner Work: A Flow Chart of the Human Psyche in Growth Facilitation and ..."
Often referred to at this site as "The Goal Chart" - a practical visual tool to help organize a truly gestalt approach to goal accomplishment, as well as complement & help complete other self-help perspectives & presentations. This comprises a re-hash of gestalt application of modern psychology and ancient truths, created to work for new applications; © Chris Pringer, '92, Rev'd 8'02. In another section, "Heart's Desire, Ideals, & Accomplishment" (Aug'11) is about clarifying what we most truly want, and how we can have that... also about HOW we respond to Pain & Loss (whether caused by disease, ourselves, others, or the economy) and are brought back together again - the *how* that can MAKE ALL THE DIFFERENCE.
Goal Chart, 'Achievement of Goals, Attainment, & the Role of Inner Work: A Flow Chart of the Human Psyche in Growth Facilitation...' by Chris Pringer, ChaliceBridge.Com

        "Attainment And Achievement -- The Alignment Of Beliefs, Desires, And Needs"
Basic principles and definitions for functionally clarifying the differences between ones beliefs, desires, & needs - and the implications for realistic goal setting, or "manefesting abundance" as related to personal growth, preventative health maintenance, and self-healing.

        "Questions for INTER-RESOURCING
The Use of Personally Applied Invocative Questions (Invoc-Q's) for Multi-Dimensional Facilitation of Information Sharing, Integration, & Access"
Animated gif of selection of my work at Fine Art America, as of Dec'12
Some of my artwork at Fine Art America,
where it can be viewed at full resolution as well as purchased as framed prints, canvas prints, greeting cards, and more. (Since Aug 2012)


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(Towards an "ART & SCIENCE of Body, Mind, & Spirit Integration")
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        Presenting early to more recent artwork (by yours truly, with the *Chalice* as eclectic symbol for the energetic infrastructure of our Being, bridging ALL that one is - a "vehicle" for the balancing & integrating of Humanity, individually & communally: thence ChaliceBridge.Com and its theme, "Chalice Bridging Arts & Sciences." There are both hand-made & artistically rendered computer-generated works, and a little bio on how it began & developed.
     My artwork is, overall, an eclectic/symbolic blend of multiple layers of brights and subtles, chalice-theme components based and arranged in sacred geometry, rounded with a balance of textures and grounding touch. This page elaborates on many aspects of sacred geometry and the chalice, including the mystical symbolism of the chalice: this precedes anything any religion has, or may yet, to do with it, and represents (here, if not universally) the human embodiment of Spirit.
      That includes broader themes, beginning with the origins of Man and ancient archytpes, and section by section, cover symbology, geometry and communication, the related but deeper (more original) archetypic symbology & meanings, various body-mind-spirit correlations, and many would-be paradoxes & mysteries. Including how & why the "sacred geometry" relates the pi-ratio to the proportion & function that is relevant to the DNA of all Life, how that relates to ones cells, to whole health.
      The page explores how all that symbolically relates to (led to?) the Legend of the "Holy Grail." For instance, in the "Pragmatic Balancing" section, we look at the legend as symbolizing the psycho-social evolution of Man, beginning with a recounting of the early history of "The Church," the orthodoxy vs the Gnostics, relating the essence of that to the world's key religions - by nature of that which unites all religions. And to emotional intelligence ("EQ") that might, on the intra- and inter- personal levels, "bridge" humanity and transcend extremes, via interconnectedness and understanding.
Multi-3D-Chalice3(w2A&CntrHBI-v2)' © Chris Pringer 2013&16, ChaliceBridge.Com
"Multi 3D Chalice 3 (w2A&CntrHBI-v2)" © Chris Pringer 2013&16. Born out of the 3D geometric visual "seen" in 1985. The vision/ visual was complete with corrolations to deep (more original) symbology - which initiated the correlations to the legendary meanings of the Holy Grail (edited by "the Church"). The above is as close to that as anything I've put in art form so far.


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   "Resource Access Prayer Chart for Economy

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24 prayers as of Dec 2011, Universal in approach,generally invoking Divine assistance, calling for citizen awareness & courage, truth, justice, accountability, related healing, learning, & balance, etc. They include a resource-connecting prayer chart for the Economy (Jan'11) , two that are specific to global climate healing, one to Iraq & Middle East, two for comprehensive planetary healing in general, two specific to media communications (latest Dec'10), and more. Page includes background and related information, links, and printing/downloading tips. (Yes, of course it's free, as I believe prayers are meant to be.)


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   "Q's Prayer 4 World Peace
     
Thumbnail of Iraq-MiddleEast Healing Prayer, Chris Pringer, Commissioning Archangel Michael for Truth, Justice, Accountability by all concerned - click to go there
    "Archangel Prayer for Iraq-MiddleEast"
     
Global Climate Healing Fantasy & Invocation (Thumb)

   "A Global Climate Healing Fantasy and the Spirit of It All" On Sacred Earth Background. PDF versions available for Printing (is 2 pages long)
   
World Healing Prayers over Sacred Geometry Graphic Backgrounds

The "coverage" (via prayer text) provides a virtual summary of our current world challenges - hints to opportunities to gain the momentum we need to heal/transform the planet and mankind.
   
Thumbnail of Broad Spectrum World Healing Prayer, Chris Pringer - click to go there
     Broad Spectrum World Healing Prayer


 




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