Questions for Appropriate Boundaries

Affirmative Questions designed specifically for
learning and affirming Effective Communications of position & intention,
Maintaining Clarity for appropriate Connection, Direction, & Protection.
Sections on "Cording" and 'Related References' follows this section.
Including description for "Positive Response Questions" (PRQ's). Note the term "unconditional love" is mentioned. Granted, "Unconditional love" falls into the same basket as "Perfection" - something you shoot for, knowing it's highly likely that you'll fall somewhere short of that - how short is a thing relative to each their own idea of perfection Related essays: "More On 'Ideals'" & "Idealism & the Concept of Perfection" at the page, "Compassion, Healing, and The Practitioner -- and Detouring 'Burn-out'" [Included in reference list at end of page].

simply asking each of these questions
as appropriate for me,
one line at a time as a thought, feeling, and/or image,
and letting the thought, feeling, or image go,
with faith that the answers come.
in Divine Order, Divine Love, & Divine Timing ?

How am I most enjoyably realizing
How I am safely in charge of my feelings,
exercising appropriate awareness and management of feelings,
including discerning between my own feelings and others feelings
-- including those of past situations --
organizing and/or releasing them as most appropriate
for current and future management of energy flow and communications
-- within and to and from myself --
in Divine Order, Divine Love, & Divine Timing ?

How am I most enjoyably Realizing
How I allow all energy(s) to flow
to where it most truly needs to go,
accepting what I need and letting go the rest,
according to the highest needs of all concerned
-- in Divine Order, Divine Love, & Divine Timing --
regardless of the nature or quality, source or intended destination,
and regardless of the sender's intended purpose ?

How am I enjoying the recognition of Energy
-- when appropriately communicated to me --
and the most appropriate and effective response to it as necessary,
accepting what I need and letting go the rest,
in Divine Order, Divine Love, & Divine Timing ?

How am I most enjoyably realizing
How I am safely in charge of my feelings,
as I facilitate awareness of my desires, needs, and priorities,
and as I appropriately manage all of these --
and as I discern any differences between them,
and any appropriate action those differences might imply need for,
in accordance with Divine Order, Divine Love, & Divine Timing.

If anything is Possible -- how good can it be ?
If anything is possible, what's God got for me ?
truly who am I and What do I know -- Eternally ?

How am I most enjoyably and appropriately realizing
how I am manifesting the reality that
I am safely in charge of my mood and my happiness,
of deciding what energy I take in and what energy I give out,
of how any in-taken energy effects my mood or health - internally or externally,
of who and what I am truly responsible to and for,
and that I am, therefore, more and more safely in charge
of what kinds of interactions with people and things I experience ?

How am I most appropriately enjoying making it safe for me
as I take charge of my life, as I stand up for myself,
and as I am more and more present
as who I truly am in all circumstances
more and more each day
in Divine Order, Divine Love, & Divine Timing.
How am I enjoying learning and feeling that today ?

How am I enjoying as much as possible
the most appropriate employment of conflict resolution
-- between parts of myself
that have been perceived as separate or having conflicting needs or agendas ?
How am I most appropriately enjoying the realization that
all that I perceive myself to be --
even if I that seemed to include various aspects, sub-personalities, and roles
(including inner-child and inner-parent) --
is working and playing together as one,
and so is all one united in common purpose,
all in Divine Order, Divine Love, and Divine Timing ?

How am I effectively responding
to potential emotion-stirring current or past situations,
making consciously sure that I clarify
current emotion from past or stored emotion
and clarify true need to allow or stimulate appropriate feeling
for true purpose attainment ?
e.g. When I journalize potentially painful events,
how am I writing about them, and how am I responding to my writing,
and still keeping all concerned in a context that is open
to the most positive and creative development?
How am I most appropriately and safely doing this
and facilitating any necessary grieving and/or responding
to specific individuals and/or the Universe
in a constructive,responsible, and timely manner ?

How am I doing this and performing any constructive, therapeutic "reframing"
of these events as memories in an effective way?
(i.e. with compassion, unconditional love and courageous self-honesty
regarding aspects of self)
How do I best perform the above such that
I maintain and/or increase my positive oriented motivation
in accordance with Divine Order, Divine Love, & Divine Timing?
How does this feel? ANSWERS ARE FACILITATED!

How am I most enjoyably realizing
I AM SAFE TO BE HERE & NOW in, and taking up, all the Space & Time I need,
to to feel and Trust, that support is present for me:
for basic (physical) needs met, including feeling loved, accepted, & supported
by MotherGod & FatherGod, MotherEarth & FatherSpace.
I Am Safe to feel support,
at least someday perhaps, even by my biological Mother & Father
- as proxies for the eventual realization of the Divine Parental support,
and from their Soul Level as vehicles
for my own realization of all the above.
I Am Thus or otherwise providing more than sufficient protection for myself
- even as I communicate my empowered presence
whether actively or passively expressing my 'Beingness',
including my health, my talents or capacities,
or my attractiveness on any level of my Being.

How am I most appropriately transforming
any desire (that I might entertain) to "fix" others
into truly useful endeavors,
toward the facilitation of healing and wholeness for all concerned ?

How Am I enjoying greater and greater results
Of Acknowedging my and others' capabilities
to each parent our Inner Families,
as my approval is my own & their's their own,
based on each our accelerating capacities
to parent our own inner children ?

How am I enjoying appropriately detached awareness
of my emotional body's dynamics as related to
past in-applicable empathy with others' expectations/approval,
and thus now providing supportive energy and resources,
for an appropriate degree of "emotional sensitivity,"
to self and others' feelings/emotions,
as well as for psychic & extra-sensory discrimination and integrity
if/as necessary, whether or not they may be in physical proximity,
responding appropriately & effectively to others communications,
whether or not an intended communication is made on whatever level,
in all my personal and other relationships !?!

How does it feel as I am in charge, consciously and/or unconsciously,
of my psychic connectedness & integrity,
of who & what I am actually responsible for and not,
and acknowledge the same for others ?!?


Statement of Integration (Long Form)
I acknowledge my Total Being (Body-Mind-Spirit-Higher Power) capacity
to effectively, efficiently, and safely search for, find, & develop
any & all answers & solutions that these questions ask for or imply.
As I simply ask each question,
one line at a time as a thought, feeling, and/or image,
and letting the thought, feeling, or image go,
with faith that the answers come.
I acknowledge that the answers &/or solutions to these questions
have manifested on some level of consciousness
and/or dimension of Life in the Universe (!)
and are manifesting with perfect timing
for gestation and completion
in this dimension of Time & Space "on Earth as it IS in Heaven" (!)

-- perhaps through communications that I sense within
(via thoughts, feelings, imagery, etc.),
&/or through my external experience(s) with things, situations, people, etc.
according to my highest needs, in accordance
with Divine Order, Divine Love, & Divine Timing.
Today and days to come I thank my Higher Power/Higher Self for showing me
what such enjoyable and appropriate answers and solutions feel and look like!

("appropriate" = in accordance with most practical application
of Divine Order, Divine Love, & Divine Timing.
"safely" = free of inappropriate judgment, intimidation, or pain of any kind.)


Statement of Integration (All Purpose Short Form)
How am I ENJOYING the right Questions and Answers
that are leading me to REALIZATIONS from this moment forward
step by step as I AM attaining my highest POTENTIAL ?
As I simply ask each question
and then simply let the thought go, with faith that the answers come.
What is the most appropriate QUESTION for right now ?

THANK YOU Self-Body-Mind-Spirit-Higher-Power
for manifesting ANSWERS to appropriate Questions in
DIVINE Order, DIVINE Love, and DIVINE Timing !
© Chris Pringer, July '96


A Word about "Cords"

          *Cords* are emotional (some would say 'empathic' or 'psychic') connections to other people. The most common example is a mother's connection to her son or daughter. Most people are unaware of them. Twins often have such cords. But more subtle are those between mates and lovers, and anyone you have strong emotional connections with, or have attachment to his/her healing as a result of your investment of time and energy. Including with people in ones past who are not (consciously) thought about anymore, whether the emotions are positive or negative. The essential point here is that cords are related to boundaries. And most can be related to energy integrity, just as walls are related to security. And although most people may not be aware of having such attachments, let alone what it's actually about, let alone it's critical relationship to burnout. And And that's why it's good to become aware of these cords and to cut or attinuate/qualify some of them. Because these energy dynamics are actually big factors for many people in the health service trades.
          Hint for those who like to contemplate or apply these considerations: Cording has a great deal to do with attitudes, definitions, conscious and often unconscious beliefs. That includes about *caring* (compassion vs sympathy), expectations of results for your caring, *responsibility* (for whom and what), as well as *intimacy* - but not necessarily the latter for any given situation.
          There are techniques and systems for dealing with these, in case you wondered.

          For attitude considerations you might look for these essays (also linked via the Body-Mind Integration home page):
          "Compassion, Healing, and The Practitioner - and Detouring 'Burn-out'" (Originally Published July'88) Added Feb'13: Visual "Affirmation for 'Seeing' & 'Hearing' ", for Clarifying and Clearing over Chalice Garden Multi-Chalice(8) HemiSync[12-3B]... This (page-wide) visual affirmation is based on principles of various therapeutic systems, including Chi Gung, for bringing about greater balance of energies in your system...". Included suggestions for use, with a 2nd graphic, "Chalice Bridging" & "Synthesis" prose over "PiChal-on Sepia". And "Questions for Boundaries" (THIS PAGE)

There are other instructive essays on cording via the TEXT files in the "Files" folder at my site:
          * WARDING (CordRemoval), also includes notes on "Basic Qigong" and "Energy Redistribution", Power of the Spoken word & "Gestalt Positivism" as related to Pain.
          * "Chalice Streaming Tube Of Light")

          * "The Use Of Questions (and Gestalt approach) In Effective Affirmation Therapy & Sample Positive Response Questions (PRQ's)" at

For context and basis on natural/bio-energetics, good introductory information is available through these TEXT files:
          * Energy Therapies
          * Human Energy Fields



Related articles (most by the author):

    "The Use Of Questions (and Gestalt approach) In Effective Affirmation Therapy - Theory and Examples for Practical Application" -- Sample PRQ's ("Positive Response Questions") for learning and affirming any desired knowledge. and Simple How-To's in developing Pragmatic use of "the right question" -- from a test situation and/or from regular affirmations. Works well for the intangibles (Personal Growth oriented) which many would say has to come before you can truly enjoy the rest anyway. © `94

    A Gestalt Perspective and Seven Phases of Personal Growth -- (2 Essays on same web page) - A perspective on an approach to and regard for life, one's past and present, as well as a basis for personal growth and/or therapy. I could've called it an integrated 'Gestaltist-Humanist-Buddhist-New Thought' perspective. (You could say these are my main sources, from among the various "schools" of psychology and correlating approaches to application of therapy.)

    Using Affirmations to Uncover and Transform Negative Beliefs and Attitudes by Douglas Bloch, Nov.'98 -- Theory & Example; Basic and very useful Self Help psychology in therapeutic use of affirmations.

        "Effective Affirmation Therapy - The Use Of 'Positive Response Questions' (PRQ's) and Gestalt Approach"-- There's more to Effective Affirmation than repeating positive statements, Attitude, Approach, and Technique can make all the difference, especially for highly challenging times, severe pain, etc. How's, Why's, of 'Positive Response Questions' (PRQ's) and Gestalt Approach, Samples, Ref-Links, & more

    "Questions for INNER-RESOURCING -- The Use of Personally Applied Invocative Questions (Invoc-Q's) for Multi-Dimensional Facilitation of Information Sharing, Integration, & Access," ©`96. Includes "An Ericsonian Reading for Resource manifestation," ©`96.

    "Compassion, Healing, and The Practitioner - and Detouring 'Burn-out'" - Published July'88 in "The New Times" (Seattle). On title-noted-aspects and related co-dependency and psycho-spiritual dynamics more or less common to therapists, nurses, doctors, and other care-givers. Also differentiates compassion from sympathy, permanent healing facilitation from symptomatic or temporary, responsibilities as related to "the work". An older writing, a compilation of principles and ideals. Also includes prose, "The Price Of Compassion". Added Feb'13: Visual "Affirmation for 'Seeing' & 'Hearing' ", for Clarifying and Clearing over Chalice Garden Multi-Chalice(8) HemiSync[12-3B]... This (page-wide) visual affirmation is based on principles of various therapeutic systems, including Chi Gung, for bringing about greater balance of energies in your system...". Included suggestions for use, with a 2nd graphic, "Chalice Bridging" & "Synthesis" prose over "PiChal-on Sepia".

    "Questions for Invocation of 'The Blueprint' -- An Empathic and Invocative Healing Exercise" © Nov `96 (at Seeker Magazine Website)

ChBullet    "Notes on Beliefs, Healing, and Prayer"
Or "Bridging Prayer & Science" - faith & intuition, Spirit working logic & emotion, and a little science to boot. Tools for working with the cells - self-healing on an energetic level, plus supportive science, concepts and references, a summary essay, "Cells & Healing Changes: How I Believe What I See; Building, Cleansing, and Paradigm Management; Body-Parenting & Healing Cell-Talk" [Rev'd Apr 2011] and "'Getting Super': Sample Personalized Visualization Prayer Chart" (more application of science than prayer in this case, as related to *Cellular Re-Organization* and engaging *neuroplasticity*.) [Rev'd Apr 2013]. Also Focusing Love-Organized Healing Waters, Water-Charging: (incl. a section for the Neuro-Endocrine System), based on some very inspiring scientific findings by Masaru Emoto including Dr. Emoto's message for transforming the water (molecules) effected by nuclear radiation. [this page is finally beginning to say what I've always wanted it to! ie: more to come in time.] [Winter'12'13]

    "Achievement of Goals, Attainment, And the Role of Inner Work: A Flow Chart of the Human Psyche in Growth Facilitation and ..."

Often referred to at this site as "The Goal Chart" - a practical visual tool to help organize a truly gestalt approach to goal accomplishment, as well as complement & help complete other self-help perspectives & presentations. This comprises a re-hash of gestalt application of modern psychology and ancient truths, created to work for new applications; © Chris Pringer, '92, Rev'd 8'02. In another section, "Heart's Desire, Ideals, & Accomplishment" (Aug'11) is about clarifying what we most truly want, and how we can have that... also about HOW we respond to Pain & Loss (whether caused by disease, ourselves, others, or the economy) and are brought back together again - the *how* that can MAKE ALL THE DIFFERENCE.
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    Available in text form via "INTER-RESOURCING INVOC-Q's - The Use Invoc-Q's) for Multi-Dimensional Facilitation of Information Sharing, Integration, & Access Adapted for *GROUP* Prayer/ Meditation" ©`96; "Space Cadet's Priorities - for 'Grounding` & Earth-Plane Productivity" © Jan '94; "Facilitated Resource Agreement Invoc-Q" © May `95, "Self-Programming Body Invoc-Q's For Personal Growth Process and Healing," ©`96, and "Whole Being Integration In Manifesting Abundance -- Seven Steps To Initiation & Understanding," ©'93-'98.



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